Why some people are so private?

The privacy works to their personal defense and advantage. Meaning, they say they are private as a warning to others to not ask any personal questions or delve into their inner thoughts or space. The main reason they say this is because they don't want to be found out. They don't want to be discovered.

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What People Really Mean When They Say “I’m a Private Person”

Let’s Break it Down

There are so many ways one can interpret the statement I’m just a private person. I’ve experienced two distinct implications that I believe, capture the essence of what people are trying to say. The first is that they do not like the spotlight, fame, or added attention. These individuals stay to themselves and keep a quiet life away from the crowds and noise of it all. They are not one to voluntarily put their business, thoughts or views on social media or any public setting. While they choose to stay recluse from the mainstream, they do not particularly withhold personal information from people they have granted access to their private space. They are incredibly open with the people that are in their inner circle. Willing to share with all manner of transparency.

Private Person № 2

Now the second implication of the phrase I’m a private person has some overlap to the previous one. Yet, this group of individuals, however, have quite a bit of cognitive dissonance.

Yep, I said it.

I recycled the overly used psychology term, but it is incredibly appropriate and applicable for this example. You see the second set of people who say they are private people operate in a manner that is convenient for them.

The privacy works to their personal defense and advantage.

Meaning, they say they are private as a warning to others to not ask any personal questions or delve into their inner thoughts or space. The main reason they say this is because they don’t want to be found out.

They don’t want to be discovered.

If people were to get to the core or find out any bit of internal discovery about that person then they would have grounds for making decisions or soliciting opinions about them. So this group of people who say they are private would rather not have people enter into this space because they do not want to risk being discovered.

Discovery to them is frightening because it can lead to anything:

Rejection

Embarrassment

Vulnerability

The list goes on.

Even the most externally confident person can put this wall of privacy up in order to defend their territory.

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While the stakes are high, and the risk is real, what these private people, unfortunately, miss out on is the chance to connect at a deeper level with someone else. This level of intimacy is incredibly powerful and life-giving in many ways. It’s a transformative and wonderful experience that remains untapped by those who choose to remain private.

Some Privacy is Good Though

Having said all this, I do believe that it is wise to guard one’s heart and create healthy boundaries with people. Because everybody does not seek good or to connect in an intimately positive way. There are some people who choose to enter in for the purpose of dismantling, manipulating and controlling. We need to use our discernment to recognize these individuals and keep the privacy wall up.

These are not individuals who deserve our intimate space.

Back to the Cognitive Dissonance

I was discussing the topic of private people with a friend recently and they relayed back to me their take on it. They said: It’s amazing that the people who say they are private are the main one’s putting all their business out there and telling you everything about them. — anonymous friend

Cognitive dissonance at it’s best folks.

It is true what my friend said, as I’ve experienced this from a few people myself. Including one encounter not too long before the conversation, I had with my friend. I met a lady who told me all the depths of her life in the first few days of knowing her. Yet, she told me that she stopped going to small churches and getting involved in small group settings because it was too much for her. When I asked her to elaborate she said people were getting too close into her personal life and providing feedback that she didn’t like. So I guess to her she could do the dance of convenience when it was to her liking and benefit, but when things got too close for comfort she then became private.

medium.com - What People Really Mean When They Say “I'm a Private Person” - Medium

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