Infatuation Rules
Infatuation Rules
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Prolactin represses dopamine, a key chemical in desire and motivation, and is linked both with sleepiness and feelings of sexual satisfaction. It's thus a de-arouser of sorts, and temporarily decreases men's desire for sex.
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Read More »Research shows that during ejaculation, men release a cocktail of brain chemicals, including norepinephrine, serotonin, oxytocin, vasopressin, nitric oxide, and the hormone prolactin. Prolactin represses dopamine, a key chemical in desire and motivation, and is linked both with sleepiness and feelings of sexual satisfaction. It’s thus a de-arouser of sorts, and temporarily decreases men’s desire for sex. Studies have shown that men deficient in prolactin have faster recovery times. Interestingly, studies have also shown that orgasms enjoyed through partnered sex release four times more prolactin than orgasms from masturbation, which means that men are less likely to feel sleepy and calm after masturbating. Oxytocin and vasopressin, two other chemicals released during orgasm, are also associated with sleep. Oxytocin, which is commonly known as “the bonding chemical” or “love hormone” as women experience it both after sex and during maternal activities such as childbirth and breast-feeding, can also cause relaxation in men, again contributing to the contentedly unaroused state after ejaculation. Now, that’s the chemical side, let’s talk about communication. Two things concern me; that you’re not listening to and respecting your partner when he clearly tells you what his physical and emotional limits are around sex, and why you are tying up your pleasure in his orgasm. By listening to you explain that you can’t orgasm through penetrative sex, ensuring you orgasm through other activities, and suggesting that you orgasm before he does, your partner he has already shown that he respects and cares about your needs and pleasure. By ignoring him when he tells you he physically and psychologically loses his sex drive immediately after orgasm, you are not returning the same sense of care and respect. And I’m not sure why. You seem to be trying to impose a somewhat arbitrary order of events onto your sex life, where you feel like he should orgasm before you do - or that if you want an orgasm after he ejaculates, he has to give it to you.
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Read More »Because of the cultural prioritising of male pleasure over women’s pleasure, many women feel pressure to bring their male partners to orgasm, and won’t relax or focus on their own pleasure before fulfilling this “duty.” Thankfully, your boyfriend understands that this is gendered nonsense, as should you. But you should also know that masturbation can be a wonderful part of sex, and that if your boyfriend needs a rest after ejaculating and you are close to orgasm or want another one, masturbating beside him can be a wonderful and fun part of your sex life. You have a man with natural physical limits who is more than willing to bring you to orgasm before he does. Respect him, and enjoy it. Roe McDermott is a writer and Fulbright scholar with an MA in sexuality studies from San Francisco State University. She’s currently undertaking a PhD in gendered and sexual citizenship at the Open University and Oxford If you have a problem or query you would like her to answer, you can submit it anonymously at irishtimes.com/dearroe
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