Infatuation Rules
Infatuation Rules
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Some existing research has suggested that people may find it hard to let go of partners who make them unhappy because they are afraid of being single . Other studies note that people are more likely to stay in a relationship if they perceive that the effort their partner puts into its success matches their own.
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Read More »At some point in our lives, we may find ourselves in a romantic relationship that makes us unhappy, yet we still choose to stick it out. Why persist in a joyless romance when we could simply break up? A new study has found a surprising answer. Share on Pinterest What actually makes it so hard to break up? Unfortunately, happy romantic relationships are very familiar and often the focus of books, movies, and agony aunt columns. But why do people find it so difficult to break free of situations that they are less than enthusiastic about? One intuitive answer may be that the relationship becomes the person’s “normal,” something that they are used to and may be afraid to trade for the unknown of singlehood. Or, perhaps, the unhappy partner is afraid that, once they break up, they will be unable to find a better partner and build a stronger, improved relationship. A new study, however, suggests that the real answer may lie elsewhere. The research was led by Samantha Joel, who collaborates with both the University of Utah in Salt Lake City and Western University in Ontario, Canada. Joel and her team’s findings, which appear in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, suggest that a person’s decision to stay in an unfulfilling relationship may arise from a place of altruism, rather than one of selfishness or insecurity. An unlikely reason to stick it out Some existing research has suggested that people may find it hard to let go of partners who make them unhappy because they are afraid of being single . Other studies note that people are more likely to stay in a relationship if they perceive that the effort their partner puts into its success matches their own. All of these motivations indicate that individuals consider, first and foremost, whether and to what extent the relationship is meeting their own needs, or is likely to meet them, in the future. However, the current study suggests that a key factor in a person’s decision to stay in an unhappy relationship may actually be an altruistic one. “When people perceived that the partner was highly committed to the relationship they were less likely to initiate a breakup,” Joel explains. “This is true even for people who weren’t really committed to the relationship themselves or who were personally unsatisfied with the relationship,” she adds. “Generally, we don’t want to hurt our partners and we care about what they want.”
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Read More »In relationships, it is very hard to be too sensitive. If someone says something that is hurting your feelings, you have the right to be upset by it if it upsets you. Now, someone saying something off-handed once or twice, not emotional abuse. However, if this continues, yes, it is emotional abuse.
Emotional abusive and sensitivity are two very different things. Emotional abuse is a type of abuse (often involved with physical abuse) in which a partner, friend, parent or someone close to you uses verbal assault, fear/threats or humiliation to undermine your self-esteem and self-worth or to make you feel afraid. Emotional abuse can include humiliation, degradation, discounting, negating. judging, criticizing, ect. Ask yourself: Does this person make fun of you or put you down in front of others? If you get upset by this, do they tell you that it's "just a joke"? Do they tell you your opinions, feelings or beliefs are wrong? Do you feel you must “get permission” before going somewhere or before making even small decisions? Do they control your spending? Do they treat you as though you are inferior to them? Do they make you feel as though they are always right? Do they remind you of your shortcomings? Do they belittle your accomplishments, your aspirations, your plans or even who you are? Do they give disapproving, dismissive, contemptuous, or condescending looks, comments, and behavior? If you answered yes to any of these questions, most likely, you are in an emotionally abusive relationship. In relationships, it is very hard to be too sensitive. If someone says something that is hurting your feelings, you have the right to be upset by it if it upsets you. Now, someone saying something off-handed once or twice, not emotional abuse. However, if this continues, yes, it is emotional abuse. Take care of yourself please, I hope you are doing okay.
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