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Why am I losing my temper lately?

A short temper can also be a sign of an underlying condition like depression or intermittent explosive disorder (IED), which is characterized by impulsive and aggressive behavior. If your anger has become overwhelming or is causing you to hurt yourself or those around you, it's time to find professional help.

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Share on Pinterest You find yourself stuck in traffic when a hasty driver cuts you off. Before you know it, your blood pressure has spiked and you impulsively yell an obscenity out the window. This kind of scenario happens to everyone at some point. Frequent outbursts that escalate quickly, though, may be a sign that you’re dealing with a short temper. You’re probably at least somewhat aware of how your short temper affects those around you. But being quick to anger can also affect you in surprising ways and take a toll on your health. Fortunately, short tempers don’t have to be long-lived. What a short temper looks like The first step in managing a short temper is learning to recognize the symptoms. These anger episodes generally come on with little to no warning. They tend to have symptoms that are both physical and psychological, such as: rage in the form of yelling and shouting

chronic irritability

heart palpitations

racing thoughts

loss of control

How it affects you A short temper can impact you in a range of ways. According to one 2010 study , it can also contribute to making you more prone to substance use and overdoing it on caffeine. Uncontrolled anger also triggers our body’s fight-or-flight response, which includes the release of stress hormones. This frequent flood of stress hormones can eventually cause long-term health problems including: insomnia

high blood pressure

headaches and stomach problems

depression

anxiety

heart attack

stroke

How to stay in control Holding on to anger quickly drains your energy and can make everything in your life seem bleak. The following strategies can help you get a better handle on your temper. Practice mindfulness Incorporating mindfulness into your regular routine can help you better understand and control the reactivity that often drives a short temper. The next time you feel your temper rising, try this exercise: Find a quiet room and a comfortable place to sit. Close your eyes and notice the physical sensation of anger travel through your body, whether it’s through your rapid heart rate or your clenched jaw. Inhale deeply and allow all thoughts of anger to release as you exhale. Repeat 2 to 3 times per day or whenever you start to feel anger arise. Refocus your energy Come up with some concrete strategies for dealing with situations that you know will trigger your temper. If you know your daily commute tends to set you off, for example, set aside some time to focus on alternative options. Waking up earlier to catch an emptier train or carpooling with a coworker might make all the difference. Even if it doesn’t resolve the situation immediately, turning your attention to problem-solving can give you a greater sense of control and keep you from blowing up. Get physical When you start to feel your blood boil, work it off with an exercise session. Go out for a quick run, play a sport that gets your heart pumping, or swim a few laps in the neighborhood pool. Regular physical activity is an effective way of increasing self-control and immediately calming your mind and body. Use a daily mood chart Track episodes of anger and irritability by keeping a daily record of your moods. You can do this in a notebook or even download one of the countless mood-tracking apps available for your phone. To get an extra clear picture of your moods, try to also take note of your intake of caffeine or other substances, quality of sleep, stressful situations or conversations, and any underlying emotions like fear or disappointment. When to get help A short temper can also be a sign of an underlying condition like depression or intermittent explosive disorder (IED), which is characterized by impulsive and aggressive behavior. If your anger has become overwhelming or is causing you to hurt yourself or those around you, it’s time to find professional help. Here are some signs to watch for: physical violence, like slapping, pushing, or shoving

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punching walls, breaking plates, or damaging property

assault or domestic violence

threats

self-harm or thoughts of suicide Reaching out to a mental health expert can provide the right treatment and help you find ways of managing explosive anger. A psychiatrist may also recommend medication for anxiety or depression. Find help now If you’re considering suicide or have thoughts of harming yourself: Call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 800-273-8255. It’s there for you 24/7.

Call 911 or your local emergency services.

Visit your nearest emergency room.

Text the Crisis Text Line by texting “HOME” to 741-741. Speaking with specialists can also help you find your state’s resources for treatment if you don’t have health insurance. If you’re with someone who is expressing anger by becoming violent or abusive, your safety may be at risk. Remove yourself from the situation. Protecting your own safety is your first priority. Reach out to the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 800−799−7233 for extra support.

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