Infatuation Rules
Infatuation Rules
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Gaslighter's Victims People who are most susceptible to being victims of gaslighting more often exhibit characteristics of ADHD, anxiety or depression, said Sarkis. Gaslighting is present in about 30 to 40 percent of the couples she treats, where such disorders are more commonly represented.
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Read More »Gaslighters appear perfectly normal at first glance, and for a while after that. It's a slow drip of deceit, abuse and manipulation tactics that eventually make a gaslighter's victim question his or her own reality. Stephanie Sarkis, a psychotherapist based in Tampa, Florida, and the author of "Gaslighting: Recognize Manipulative and Emotionally Abusive People — and Break Free," recently wrote about such behavior in the political sphere in an opinion piece for USA Today. The behavior is the same, whether between courting couples, in a workplace or between a political leader and his or her constituents. Gaslighting is manipulative behavior by a person who is trying to gain control and foster dependence. The term is derived from a 1934 play that became a 1944 movie, "Gaslight," in which a husband desperately tries to keep a secret from his wife by convincing her she's going insane. Gaslighters will blatantly lie and then deny ever making those claims. Lying is an important part of gaslighting, because gaslighters will use lies to eclipse other bad behavior. People exhibiting this type of behavior also pit their victim against other people, sometimes by making up stories that the gaslighter claims other people said. "What happens is you try to get away from those people and you get closer to the gaslighter," Sarkis said, noting that gaslighters can be narcissistic and have a history of infidelity. They might tell other people their victim is crazy, or lie directly to victims by telling them other people think they're crazy. Complicating things, the gaslighter can be perceived as a "pillar of the community" who is well-liked, which can make it difficult for the victim to convince others that the behavior is occurring, Sarkis said.
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Read More »People who are most susceptible to being victims of gaslighting more often exhibit characteristics of ADHD, anxiety or depression, said Sarkis. Gaslighting is present in about 30 to 40 percent of the couples she treats, where such disorders are more commonly represented. Gaslighting is as likely to be done by men as women, Sarkis said. Trying to expose the gaslighter's behavior isn't necessarily a shoo-in to the victimizer admitting his or her faults. Even if their behavior is recorded, they'll likely say their message was misunderstood or even edited to portray them negatively, Sarkis said. "It's really astounding to see the disconnect that they have between reality and what they want you to believe," she said. Aside from its mental impacts, gaslighting can also cause the victim to become physically sick more often and notice more gastrointestinal issues related to increased stress. Self-esteem will suffer too, as the gaslighter tries to prevent the victim from leaving the relationship. Examples Of Gaslighting Behavior: Splitting: The gaslighter pits you against someone else by telling you lies about what they said. Instead of confronting that person, you get mad and get closer to the gaslighter. Triangulation: The gaslighter gives you a message to give to someone else. You send the message only to learn the gaslighter denies ever having told you that. Cognitive Empathy: This is a control mechanism gaslighters use by telling you what they think you want to hear. They'll sound empathetic and caring, but won't feel the emotions behind it. Hovering: This is a gaslighter's attempt to pull victims who are trying to escape back into relationships to feed their narcissism, and involves making promises that won't be kept. In cases where gaslighting is occurring, especially in the workplace where a coworker is taking credit for someone else's work or a boss is harassing an employee, Sarkis said it's important to document the times, dates and direct quotes. Notes should be taken somewhere besides a work device. For those wanting to escape gaslighters, it's important to cut off all contact. If not, they may reach out with promises that things have changed or everything will be different, when in fact things often get worse if the victim returns. If victims can't leave the situation, for example at work, Sarkis recommends ignoring the behavior. "When gaslighters get bored with your response or you're not responding, they tend to move on to another victim," she said.
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