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When should you give up on a relationship?

If both partners are giving equally, the relationship will work. But if your partner takes you for granted or doesn't respect you, that means trouble. Sometimes this is a result of relationship stressors that can be fixed. If you feel deeply that your partner no longer values you, it could be time to leave.

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Even when we recognize the signs to leave a relationship, it can still be difficult to work up the courage to give up your sense of connection, significance and certainty. You’ll need to dig deep and focus on yourself, your decisions and your ultimate happiness. That’s what’s most important in life. The desire for a healthy, passionate relationship is part of the human experience. Connection is one of the ten gifts of life : the gifts that give our lives purpose and meaning. It’s also one of the Six Human Needs , which drive every decision we make. Connection is vital to life – and that’s what can make it so hard to know when to leave a relationship.

How to know when to leave a relationship

It isn’t always clear when to leave a relationship. How do you know if your partnership can be fixed, or is beyond repair? Of course, emotional and physical abuse are always signs to leave a relationship. But if you’re not sure, the signs may be more subtle.

You no longer communicate

Communication is crucial in every relationship, but especially romantic ones. Communication problems are one of the top three causes of marriage failure in America. If you’re constantly fighting and seem unable to resolve conflict, that could be a sign of when to leave a relationship. While you can learn how to avoid arguments, you may not be able to fix deeper problems that a lack of communication indicates.

You don’t feel valued

Relationships are places that we go to give, not places that we go to take. If both partners are giving equally, the relationship will work. But if your partner takes you for granted or doesn’t respect you, that means trouble. Sometimes this is a result of relationship stressors that can be fixed. If you feel deeply that your partner no longer values you, it could be time to leave.

The passion is gone

Tony teaches that there are Six Stages of a Relationship. Number one is a passionate, intimate and electric connection. That connection is a result of your polarity with your partner. If you’re not feeling that anymore – and you don’t have the desire to fix the situation – that’s one of the biggest signs to leave a relationship. But if you do want to regain your polarity, don’t give up yet. It’s often possible to reignite the passion.

You don’t want to fix it

The key to how to know when to leave a relationship is your desire to fix it: if you’re willing to put in the work, it’s possible to create a fulfilling relationship. But if you’re planning your escape, which is stage four of the Six Stages of a Relationship, it’s time to move on. If you’re contemplating life without your partner, you’re past the point of wanting – or being able – to fix the relationship. Find the courage to leave.

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The second stage of a relationship is Doubt and Denial, in which we finally start to actually notice the differences between us and our partners. We wake up from the trance of infatuation with a thump, finding that the same qualities that once seemed so perfect have begun to annoy us. (His reliability now feels rigid; her generosity seems irresponsible; their adventurous nature feels like unnecessary risk.) And unfortunately, friction is natural once we run up against each other's differences. Power struggles increase, and we marvel at the change in our partner. Feelings of love mix with alienation and irritation. Perhaps we're not "perfect" for each other after all. As our disappointment escalates, so do our biological responses to stress. Depending on our personality and circumstances, we may want to fight or to withdraw. For example, you may feel the need to fight to defend your values, which may actually translate into the desire to have everything your own way. It makes little sense to expect another person to be just like we are, and yet, at some level, many of us do tend to ask, "Why aren't you like me?"

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