Infatuation Rules
Infatuation Rules
Photo: Yasin Gündogdu
narcissist These monkeys were sent by the witch to do her dirty work, and the phrase has since become synonymous with people who end up doing the dirty work of a narcissist. Flying monkeys get caught up in a narcissist's plan — often to damage the life of another person.
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Read More »Anyone who remembers watching the Wizard of Oz as a child will probably remember how horrifying the Wicked Witch of the West’s flying monkeys were. These monkeys were sent by the witch to do her dirty work, and the phrase has since become synonymous with people who end up doing the dirty work of a narcissist. Flying monkeys get caught up in a narcissist’s plan — often to damage the life of another person. The narcissist may use their flying monkeys as piggy in the middle, carrying information from party to party. The flying monkey may use gaslighting tactics, open aggression, and guilt-tripping in order to make another person feel bad and weak, whilst shoring up the narcissist. And they’re often involved in pleading the case of the narcissist. Narcissists love having at least one flying monkey, as it makes them feel important and means they can appear to be above the people below them (on both sides) who are caught up in the messy parts of the drama. The narcissist often recruits his or her flying monkeys from among other family members, such as siblings, spouses, or children. Close friends or work colleagues may also become flying monkeys: I’m sure we’ve all come across bosses or political leaders who wouldn’t be able to function without a band of helpers prepared to get their hands dirty. Rosie described how she had been her brother’s flying monkey up until the point she realised she was involved in a potentially illegal action. “I felt very threatened by my brother”, she told me. “He is extremely aggressive and emotionally abusive and I felt safer keeping in with him. That might involve picking on our other sibling, sending emails and generally defending my brother whenever he’d acted out of line. I’d got to a point where I was blinded as to what was right or wrong. I just wanted to be his best friend because I saw him as the strongest in the family, and it stopped him turning on me”.
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Read More »A loss of sense of self. Some flying monkeys are so browbeaten by the narcissist that they have far less capacity than otherwise might be expected when it comes to knowing right from wrong. They may have experienced years of emotional abuse at the hands of the narcissist and have lost a sense of self and independent decision-making along the way.
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