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What qualities make a girl hot?

Qualities like mystery and the ability to make a partner laugh, long thought of as core, accepted sexy factors, are out (7 in 10 women reported that they can make themselves laugh, thankyouverymuch). ... The top 10 sexy characteristics: Vulnerability. Courage. Individuality. Beauty. Honesty. Ambition. Spontaneity. Spirituality. More items... •

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I just got my highlighter out and went at a new study that landed on my desk, college-student style (that's how fascinated I was). Conducted by Jeetendr Sehdev, a branding expert and professor at USC, it questioned 10,000 men and women from Asia to Australia on what makes someone sexy, and the results make me so hopeful about humanity. Qualities like mystery and the ability to make a partner laugh, long thought of as core, accepted sexy factors, are out (7 in 10 women reported that they can make themselves laugh, thankyouverymuch). Instead, courage matters more than confidence to 75 percent of respondents as it shows someone's flaws in a positive light and makes them relatable. Honesty was found to be eight times sexier than intelligence, and 7 out of 10 people agreed that individuality, shown by going against the mainstream and taking risks, was "super sexy." Also fascinating: Men considered ambition in women sexier than the reverse, with 52 percent saying it's attractive for challenging traditional gender-based stereotypes. I'm not as naive to think physical traits aren't involved—they totally are. Sixty-eight percent of people agreed that an attractive body is as important as a beautiful face to being considered sexy, but there's some interesting reasoning behind that. People questioned said an in-shape physique correlated to discipline and hard work in the gym, both of which hinted at a good work ethic (something found sexy on its own).

The top 10 sexy characteristics:

Vulnerability Courage Individuality Beauty Honesty Ambition Spontaneity Spirituality Passion Experimentation

The results broken done by area showed that North America found ambition to be its top sexy characteristic (Europe cared most about compassion, Asia spirituality, and Australia courage).

I haven't given a lot of actual thought to what I consider sexy, and it's interesting to ask yourself. I'd rank courage and individuality high on my personal list; what about you?

PS: Those striped undies are from Victoria's Secret and you can shop them here.

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How do you tell a guy you want to sleep with him?

You may be sending signals that seem obvious to you, but he might not pick up on them. In that case, you might just have to gather your courage and tell him how you feel. Try asking him, "I am ready to start having sex with you, would you be into that?" or "How do you feel about becoming more intimate with me?"

Question

My boyfriend wants to have sex with me. I've told him I'm not ready, but all he does now is try to get me to have sex with him - touching me sexually and trying to take off my clothes. What should I do?

Alex Top Answerer

What he's doing is sexual assault, and it's not okay. Be clear with him that he needs to stop. Tell him firmly, "I'm not ready to have sex, and I'm not okay with you touching me like that. If you keep doing it, I'm going to leave." Then, if he tries again, follow through on it. If he's receptive, you can try having another conversation about it; if he's not, however, you're better off ending the relationship. It might seem harsh, but someone who truly cares about you and respects you will accept and respect your boundaries about sex, and if he's not willing to do that, he doesn't respect you. You deserve a partner who will respect you and your boundaries, even if they don't like the answer they get.

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