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What percent of first dates lead to second dates?

A survey of more than 3500 singles conducted by the online dating site RSVP (owned by Fairfax Media, the publisher of Sunday Life) found that 20 per cent of users "always" got a second date, 29 per cent said they got one 75 per cent of the time and 28 per cent said they got one as often as not.

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The first date is easy: light, easy chatter, relaxed banter over who pays for the coffee, a peck on the cheek in the car park. But then comes the moment of suspense: will this be just another first date that goes nowhere? For many, a second date is elusive, while plenty of others take it for granted that their coffee companions will be lining up for a second shot. A survey of more than 3500 singles conducted by the online dating site RSVP (owned by Fairfax Media, the publisher of Sunday Life) found that 20 per cent of users "always" got a second date, 29 per cent said they got one 75 per cent of the time and 28 per cent said they got one as often as not. That leaves around a third of users stuck in a cycle of first dates, with eight per cent reporting that, sadly, they never get a second chance.

Manners and first impressions are vital in sealing a second date. Credit:Stocksy

After working as an online dating coach for the past four years, I find it easy to pick the clients who are always asked on follow-up dates. Like Janet, 53, from Melbourne: a willowy brunette who's clever, funny and happy to add a vital component for success in this age group – a saucy touch to her profile. One mention of a particular preference was enough: "A firm, warm hand resting casually on my thigh." She is swamped with men eager for as many dates as she'll offer them. The men who do well are equally predictable: tall, good-looking guys in any age group, successful men, confident blokes with good table manners and great banter. It's the men struggling to get those second dates who often come to me – accounting for about a third of my 250 or so past clients. Sometimes, the reason is obvious – men who are short, broke or boring are less likely to get repeat requests. Ditto women who lie on their profiles, or put up very old photos, or are really overweight.

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How many dates does the average man go on?

Men, on the other hand, average about 10 sexual partners, eight dates, six one-night stands, eight kisses, and six long-term relationships. So, more all around generally, but perhaps that has to do with 88 percent of men surveyed subscribing to the notion of "true love," compared to 94 percent of women.

As the wise Pat Benetar once said, "love is a battlefield." Now, thanks to a study out of the UK, we have a sense for how big exactly that battlefield is and how long the war will be. Pulling from a 2000-person sample, the study analyzed participants' dating statistics to determine everything from the average number of kisses to the number of dates and long-term relationships women and men go through before finding the partner of their dreams. Women can expect numbers along the lines of 15 kisses, two long-term relationships, seven dates, four one-night stands, and seven sexual partners, among other statistics. That's a whole lot of frogs before the prince. Men, on the other hand, average about 10 sexual partners, eight dates, six one-night stands, eight kisses, and six long-term relationships. So, more all around generally, but perhaps that has to do with 88 percent of men surveyed subscribing to the notion of "true love," compared to 94 percent of women. The purpose, though, is not to pin the "we have it worse" badge on men or women as far as dating goes. It's that everyone—man, woman, or otherwise—faces a monumental climb in finding their Happily Ever After. Adversity in love, after all, knows no race, gender, creed or political party. Which is to say, don't give up just yet. You might hit the magic number soon.

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