Infatuation Rules
Infatuation Rules
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Toxic jealousy becomes a dysfunctional way to get unmet, but very normal, childhood needs for affection and genuine care met in adulthood. Think of toxic jealousy as a giant tantrum, the equivalent of a 4-year-old yelling and flailing about on the floor to get what he or she wants, and to get it immediately.
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Read More »Love patterns from childhood repeat in adult romantic relationships. When early care meant dismissal, rejection, or invalidation, people are more likely to seek the same traits in their adult romantic partners. Toxic jealousy becomes a dysfunctional way to get unmet, but very normal, childhood needs for affection and genuine care met in adulthood. Think of toxic jealousy as a giant tantrum, the equivalent of a 4-year-old yelling and flailing about on the floor to get what he or she wants, and to get it immediately. If, early in life, loving one or both of your caretakers left you feeling rejected or undervalued, then these are the feelings you will automatically call up when you reach for love in your adult relationships. These early experiences mean you are likely attracted to people who, similar to your parents, are unpredictable or unreliable. Toxic love ensues when the patterns that you initially experienced are triggered in your adult relationships. Toxic relationships at first may unfold like love at first sight. It is incredibly seductive to feel the instant chemistry of meeting a person who triggers old love patterns. Sadly, the intrigue and allure that this shiny new partner first emits soon give way, and you are left once again feeling that you cannot get your needs met. This upset triggers old childhood wounds, which can cause a person to lose their footing and tumble into such an extreme emotional headspace that they cannot think clearly. They do and say things they would never ordinarily do or say. After it is all over, the jealousy abates, and self-loathing rushes in. A wound that never heals is easily re-injured. Take the example of Monica — growing up, she never had full access to her father. He was aloof and uninterested, traveling a great deal for work. But every now and again, the family would go on vacation, and she would get his undivided attention — and she lived for those moments. Now in adulthood, she is attracted to aloof and noncommittal types who cannot reliably be there for her. When they blow her off by avoiding or ignoring her, Monica goes into a toxic jealousy spiral. She stalks the offender on Facebook, leaves messages accusing him of having sex with other women —on one occasion, she even showed up at his place of employment and publicly yelled that he was sleeping with his coworker. She is in overdrive to somehow possess what she could not have as a child. If you see some of yourself in these descriptions, ask yourself the following three questions as a first step toward escape from the jealousy spiral.
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