What is the 90 10 rule dating?

The 90-10 rule is about making it clear—through words, actions, body language, whatever tools you have—what you want to do, and then letting the other person decide if it's what they want too. If she doesn't "come the other 10," there's no kiss.

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Go ninety.

Whatever you're doing, just go 90 and let the other person come 10. By which I do not mean stick 90 percent of your penis into someone and then ask if this is what they like. The 90-10 rule is about making it clear—through words, actions, body language, whatever tools you have—what you want to do, and then letting the other person decide if it's what they want too. If she doesn't "come the other 10," there's no kiss. If you ask someone out in a way that demonstrates your enthusiasm and how much thought you've put into the date (doing 90 percent of the work), while also making it clear that the other person has the option to say no (without, say, causing you to break down or hurt them/yourself—two tactics abusers use to get what they want) and she says no, there's no date. It's just a guideline, of course, and nothing replaces verbal communication, but if Will Smith can give Kevin James a pretty workable definition of How to Come On to Someone Without Being a Creep in three and a half minutes, you and your gang can follow it. (I also think it's worth noting that this is a guy-to-guy moment. It shouldn't always—or, ideally, ever—be on women to educate men on how to have, you know, basic humanity. Guys can and should call out their friends when they step over the line and teach them methods for navigating the dating world with manners, dignity, and Not Being a Damn Rapist.)

"You don't go the whole hundred!"

These lessons are crucial to have in romantic comedies, which have long functioned as a lens through which society can see and satirize its dating habits and the current state of play between the sexes. Though there are a ton of resources for people who want to learn about rape culture and consent, the fact is, it's often not until college that many people encounter them (though a lot of people are working to change that). By that time I'd say the average woman has seen upwards of a dozen romantic comedies, and she's probably internalized at least some of their messages. The same way the cereal industry got kids hooked on sugar through ads in Saturday-morning cartoons—get ’em early, hit ’em often—we have to popularize digestible messages of consent. Hitch isn't the only rom com to do this. Legally Blonde, Miss Congeniality, and Clueless, among others, feature scenes in which the female protagonist clearly and explicitly demands control over her own body, and she's not considered shrill or frigid and she's not punished for doing so. (And if, after all those, someone still isn't getting it, show them Thelma and Louise.) Romantic comedies are many people's first lessons in how to comport themselves in a sexualized situation. We should remember the times those movies get it right, and we should take note of the shorthand reminders. You go 90, and wait for the other person to go 10. And if they don't, maybe they're…just not that into you.

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Who is more loyal in a relationship?

Women are more loyal in romantic relationships than men – Uche Elendu. It's a known fact that unfaithfulness is the bane of most marriages and relationships, however arguments abound as to who cheats more – the man or the woman?

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It’s a known fact that unfaithfulness is the bane of most marriages and relationships, however arguments abound as to who cheats more – the man or the woman? For Nollywood actress and mother of two, Uche Elendu, there’s no doubt in her mind that women tend to be more loyal in marriages and relationships than men, hinging her argument on the genes of both sexes. “Without sentiment, I say that a man has the most tendency to be unfaithful in a relationship”, she offered with conviction. “There’s a popular saying that ‘It’s in a man’s DNA to cheat’. Most times, without reason or with the slightest excuse, men take the plunge. It’s typical for most men to stop by at bars after work to have a drink with the ‘boys’. From there, most times, they end up on another woman’s bed before heading home to their wives. Women on the other hand, are naturally composed while in relationships. Their resistance to cheating is strong. This is not to say women do not cheat, but on the average and by virtue of their DNA, they are keepers. They are programmed to keep the home alive and united, they hold the home with prayers, they fix meals, care for the kids etc. Where in this tight schedule does she have the time to cheat? Any day, any time, women are more faithful,” she added. Uche Elendu joined Nollywood in 2001 and featured in her first movie ‘Fear of the Unknown’ after which she returned to finishing her tertiary education. The Abia State-born role interpreter has a bachelor’s degree in International Relations from Imo State University.

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