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What is sleep divorce?

A sleep divorce is simply sleeping apart, in separate beds or bedrooms so that both partners can get the best sleep, says Shelby Harris, a licensed clinical psychologist and director of sleep health at Sleepopolis.

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If your struggle to get a good night's sleep is specific to being in bed next to your partner, it might be time for a sleep divorce. But don't worry, because unlike the real thing, this process won't require a lawyer or all the paperwork. A sleep divorce is simply sleeping apart, in separate beds or bedrooms so that both partners can get the best sleep, says Shelby Harris, a licensed clinical psychologist and director of sleep health at Sleepopolis. Despite how extreme it might sound, a sleep divorce may actually save your relationship if your inability to sleep at night has brought you to a breaking point. "I actually recommend that couples sometimes do this, and it doesn't mean that their relationship is in trouble," Harris says. "It just means they're actually valuing their relationship and their health as well." Here's when most people should consider a sleep divorce and how to do it successfully.

5 reasons you might need a sleep divorce

According to Harris, you may want to consider sleep divorce when you and/or your partner: Have different sleep patterns or schedules (night owl vs. early bird)

Are a light sleeper/alarm interrupts sleep

Snore loudly

Move a lot while sleep

Have different preferences (bedding, temperature, light exposure, etc.) However, you shouldn't take the plunge without problem-solving first, especially if you value sleeping in the same bed, she says. If you wake up much earlier than your partner and your alarm clock disturbs their sleep, maybe consider a vibrating pillow or vibrating watch as an alarm instead, Harris suggests. You can also think about using a night light as you get ready in the morning, to avoid interfering with your partner's sleep. If snoring or constant moving while sleeping is an issue, Harris encourages getting yourself or your partner evaluated for potential sleep apnea problems. "If those things are all done and it still is an issue, then we might make that conscious decision to sleep apart," says Harris. "Sleeping apart is totally fine."

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