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What is seductive body language?

This is a body language “classic.” A closed-off posture, with arms folded, or turning away from someone, are obvious signs of lack of interest. Open postures, oriented toward the other person, with a slightly forward lean, are body cues that are seductive.

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Many years ago, my colleague, Howard Friedman, and I studied complex emotional communication. One of these was seduction. We asked people to express seduction and videotaped them, but we controlled the verbal channel by having them say standard sentences (“I haven’t seen you for a while”). What did we discover? First, it was very hard for people to successfully convey seduction on cue, but we did come to understand how people typically behaved seductively. Here are six nonverbal means of communicating seduction. Subtle and important, just the right amount of eye contact, maintained a bit too long, and then looking away slowly, can be incredibly seductive. In our study, “seducers” who gazed into the camera were more successful at being seductive than were those who couldn’t. Eye contact is a complex means of nonverbal communication. Learn more about its secret powers here.

2. Facial Expression

People who were good at being seductive in our study expressed positive affect, and much of this was done through facial expressions, particularly the mouth. A sly smile, or a brief licking of the lips, can be quite seductive. However, the key is to be subtle, and not overdo it.

3. Posture

This is a body language “classic.” A closed-off posture, with arms folded, or turning away from someone, are obvious signs of lack of interest. Open postures, oriented toward the other person, with a slightly forward lean, are body cues that are seductive.

4. Olfaction

Although we didn’t study the use of perfume/cologne, pleasant scents can be seductive in that they can set up a conditioned response (“just the smell of her/him turns me on”).

5. Touch

In our study, there was no touch, but we know from other research that touch is very important to conveying sexual interest. A light brushing of the hand, or knees touching while seated, can be very seductive.

6. Tone of Voice

Tone of voice, coupled with facial expressions, seemed to be the “make or break” channels in our study for being successfully seductive. A soft, pleasant tone that conveyed positive emotion was successful. A harsh and negative tone of voice was not rated as seductive. Successful nonverbal communication is not easy. It takes a great deal of practice, and while we spend a lot of time honing our verbal communication skills, we typically spend very little time developing our nonverbal skills. The good news, however, is that with practice and time, people can become more effective nonverbal communicators, and more capable of successfully conveying complex emotions like seduction.

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Can men sense when you are turned on?

University of Kent research suggests that men can distinguish between the scents of sexually aroused and non-aroused women. The detection of sexual arousal through smell may function as an additional channel in the communication of sexual interest and provide further verification of human sexual interest.

University of Kent research suggests that men can distinguish between the scents of sexually aroused and non-aroused women University of Kent research suggests that men can distinguish between the scents of sexually aroused and non-aroused women. The detection of sexual arousal through smell may function as an additional channel in the communication of sexual interest and provide further verification of human sexual interest. This research by Dr Arnaud Wisman, a Psychologist at the University of Kent, expands on previous studies which have concluded that humans can communicate and detect emotions such as fear or sadness through scent. Sexual arousal is also identified as an emotional physical state. Findings were established through three different experiments where men processed the scents of axillary sweat samples from anonymous sexually aroused and non-aroused women. Men evaluated the scent of sexually aroused women as relatively more attractive and this increased their sexual motivation. This suggests that the chemical signals of scent alone can elicit a sexual response in recipients. Dr Arnaud Wisman said: 'The present studies suggest that men are sensitive to the olfactory signals of sexual arousal released by women. This research suggests that these signals released along with corresponding visual and auditory expressions of sexual interest can produce a stronger overall signal that increases sexual motivation. Sexual interest may entail more than meets the eye and we hope that the current findings encourage further research to examine the role of sexual olfactory signals in human communication.'

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The research paper titled, 'Sexual Chemosignals: Evidence that Men Process Olfactory Signals of Women's Sexual Arousal' is published in 'Archives of Sexual Behavior'. DOI: https://doi.org/10.1007/s10508-019-01588-8

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