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What is purple flag in relationship?

The color purple is used to bring awareness to the issue of domestic violence. At UNH, SHARPP community educators raise awareness of the rates of relationship violence through the Purple Flag Campaign.

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As some of you may know, October is national Domestic Violence Awareness Month. At UNH, we honor the month as Relationship Abuse Awareness Month. Domestic violence is “a pattern of abusive behavior in any relationship that is used by one partner to gain or maintain power and control over another intimate partner.” Domestic violence can be physical, sexual, emotional, economic or psychological actions or threats of actions that influence another person. This includes any behaviors that intimidate, manipulate, humiliate, isolate, frighten, terrorize, coerce, threaten, blame, hurt, injure or wound someone” (United States Department of Justice). Domestic violence can happen to ANYONE. Regardless of race, sexual orientation, socioeconomic status, gender or religion. Anyone can be a victim. Nearly one in four women (22.3 percent) and one in seven men (14.0 percent) aged 18 or older in the United States have been the victim of severe physical violence by an intimate partner in their lifetime according to the National Intimate Partner and Sexual Violence Survey of 2011. Based on this statistic, at UNH Durham, Manchester and Concord, 3,216 current students will experience severe physical violence by an intimate partner in their lifetime. The color purple is used to bring awareness to the issue of domestic violence. At UNH, SHARPP community educators raise awareness of the rates of relationship violence through the Purple Flag Campaign. This campaign creates a visual representation of the number of students on this campus who have been or will be affected by relationship abuse. During the last week of October, there will be 322 flags outside Wolff House, each representing 10 students. In honor of Relationship Abuse Awareness Month at UNH, these flags show just how many people are impacted by intimate partner violence and how important it is to know how we can support survivors. Here are some ways you can use SHARPP as a resource and support: Walk into Wolff House during business hours (M-F: 8:30 a.m. – 4 p.m.), no appointment necessary

Call the 24/7 helpline: (603) 862-SAFE(7233)

Email the Ask an Advocate online service: http://www.unh.edu/sharpp/askanadvocate

Three ways to help a friend:

Listen without judgment and believe what they tell you

Establish physical and emotional safety — ask your friend what they need

Reach out to appropriate resources:

o SHARPP

o Emergency services

Stop by Wolff House October 24 – 28 to see the purple flags and learn more about intimate partner violence!

End Intimate Partner Violence

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What are the C's in a relationship?

A strong and healthy relationship is built on the three C's: Communication, Compromise and Commitment. Think about how to use communication to make your partner feel needed, desired and appreciated.

February may be the month of love, but it takes more than chocolates, flowers and dinner dates to make a relationship work. A strong and healthy relationship is built on the three C’s: Communication, Compromise and Commitment. Whether starting a new relationship or celebrating decades of marriage, here is a refresher course in the three C’s:

Communication

Think about how to use communication to make your partner feel needed, desired and appreciated. Communication is verbal and non-verbal, so actions speak volumes, and remember that listening is a major component of healthy communication. It’s not always what is said, but how it is said, that’s important. If a couple communicates with aggression, the silent treatment or abusive language or actions, it signals concerns that might best be addressed by a professional.

Compromise

Two people in a relationship bring individual experiences, thoughts, behaviors and personalities to the table. Finding common ground means expressing opinions, understanding and accepting differences and agreeing on compromise. If both people feel heard and understood, it helps prevent one person from feeling like they’re giving in, which can build resentment over time.

Commitment

Commitment means putting each other and the relationship first. This requires a lot of giving, and certainly some sacrifice, but the payoff is a relationship that brings true joy and fulfillment to each other’s lives. Knowing that each person is committed to working through challenges and growing together builds trust and intimacy, and helps release the fears and doubts that hold couples back. Relationships can be challenging, and can take a toll on mental, emotional and physical health, mood, or even focus at work. For help with any relationship or personal concern, contact your Employee Assistance Program (EAP) provided by ACI Specialty Benefits at 800.932.0034 or eapinfo@acispecialtybenefits.com.

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