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What is a velcro girlfriend?

The types where partners are always seen together, forever joint at the hip, doing everything together and hardly continuing their individual interests and never pursuing individual goals because they are now 'a team' or because they are now 'a family' or that they now 'belong together'.

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They usually have two surfaces which stick together when pressed against each other and are always enmeshed at all times until some force is applied to put them apart.

And this is what perfectly describes some relationships.

The types where partners are always seen together, forever joint at the hip, doing everything together and hardly continuing their individual interests and never pursuing individual goals because they are now ‘a team’ or because they are now ‘a family’ or that they now ‘belong together’. Without an iota of doubt, all these terms that point to the merging of two souls in love is not a problem. It’s actually beautiful to see people become one in a way that only love and committed efforts can activate. However, people sometimes mistake the concept of being one with a partner for a total and absolute yielding of individuality. Being married being in a romantic relationship does not mean you have to get every part of your life and your partner’s blended. Even the most romantic of relationships and the dreamiest of fairy tale marriages should still allow for space enough for partners to be themselves – to continue doing the things that made them the attractive package they were before they got into a relationship. Disallowing your partner from doing everything they love doing because you are not interested, or demanding they join you in things they have no interest in, is not good enough. There’s the place for trying to do stuff together and taking interest in things for your partner’s sake but that’s not obligatory and it’s not something to be enforced as a rule. It still does not take away from the need for partners to always reach compromises and be there for each other. All in all, trying to be everywhere with your partner, to do everything with them, disallowing them from having time to for activities they love, with people they love… it’s not a good idea. What you’ll have on your hands is a discontent partner, one stifled and suffocated by your presence. You don’t have to spend every moment together. You don’t have to be that Velcro partner. You don’t need a Velcro relationship. Learn to be really close with your partner and still afford them breathing space to do their thing, to continue being the person they were before you came into the picture.

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How do you tell if he wants to end the relationship?

10 Signs Your Partner Probably Wants To Break Up With You They avoid you. Tumblr. ... They've stopped talking about a future with you. ... They've stopped making an effort. ... They put their friends first. ... You're no longer intimate with each other. ... They're being secretive. ... They threaten to leave you. ... They pick fights with you. More items... •

If these signs from YourTango seem familiar, your partner may be ready to move on. When your relationship gets stale, it can be tricky to know if you're at risk of breaking up. While every relationship goes through ups and downs, certain signs can show you if your guy or gal is ready to hit the road. If you see these signs in your relationship, don't panic. Instead, proceed with caution, focus on reconnecting, and work on the areas of your relationship that need a little bit of extra love and care. After all, ignorance isn't always bliss.

1. They avoid you.

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Breakups are tough, and some people find that actually telling their partner they want to call it quits is too hard. Instead, they choose the path of avoidance rather than being direct and honest about their feelings. If your partner is suddenly canceling all your plans or changing the conversation whenever a serious topic comes up, they may want out but not know how to tell you. If you notice this happening, it's time to bring this behavior to their attention.

2. They've stopped talking about a future with you.

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