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What is a purple flag in relationship?

The color purple is used to bring awareness to the issue of domestic violence. At UNH, SHARPP community educators raise awareness of the rates of relationship violence through the Purple Flag Campaign.

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As some of you may know, October is national Domestic Violence Awareness Month. At UNH, we honor the month as Relationship Abuse Awareness Month. Domestic violence is “a pattern of abusive behavior in any relationship that is used by one partner to gain or maintain power and control over another intimate partner.” Domestic violence can be physical, sexual, emotional, economic or psychological actions or threats of actions that influence another person. This includes any behaviors that intimidate, manipulate, humiliate, isolate, frighten, terrorize, coerce, threaten, blame, hurt, injure or wound someone” (United States Department of Justice). Domestic violence can happen to ANYONE. Regardless of race, sexual orientation, socioeconomic status, gender or religion. Anyone can be a victim. Nearly one in four women (22.3 percent) and one in seven men (14.0 percent) aged 18 or older in the United States have been the victim of severe physical violence by an intimate partner in their lifetime according to the National Intimate Partner and Sexual Violence Survey of 2011. Based on this statistic, at UNH Durham, Manchester and Concord, 3,216 current students will experience severe physical violence by an intimate partner in their lifetime. The color purple is used to bring awareness to the issue of domestic violence. At UNH, SHARPP community educators raise awareness of the rates of relationship violence through the Purple Flag Campaign. This campaign creates a visual representation of the number of students on this campus who have been or will be affected by relationship abuse. During the last week of October, there will be 322 flags outside Wolff House, each representing 10 students. In honor of Relationship Abuse Awareness Month at UNH, these flags show just how many people are impacted by intimate partner violence and how important it is to know how we can support survivors. Here are some ways you can use SHARPP as a resource and support: Walk into Wolff House during business hours (M-F: 8:30 a.m. – 4 p.m.), no appointment necessary

Call the 24/7 helpline: (603) 862-SAFE(7233)

Email the Ask an Advocate online service: http://www.unh.edu/sharpp/askanadvocate

Three ways to help a friend:

Listen without judgment and believe what they tell you

Establish physical and emotional safety — ask your friend what they need

Reach out to appropriate resources:

o SHARPP

o Emergency services

Stop by Wolff House October 24 – 28 to see the purple flags and learn more about intimate partner violence!

End Intimate Partner Violence

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What triggers emotional intelligence?

Being Aware of Triggers Is Essential to Emotional Intelligence. When we are triggered without awareness of our emotions, we react in a certain way out of habit. Our typical emotional reaction developed because we have a need we want met (conscious or unconscious).

A lot of us are not that aware of how we actually feel or why we react the way we do in many situations. Emotional self-awareness, the ability to understand what we are feeling and why we are feeling that way, is the foundation of emotional intelligence. The good news is that it’s never too late to learn how to recognize and manage emotions. Developing this skill set helps us through better interactions and relationships with other people.

Your Brain on Emotion

You may be asking, “What do you mean I don’t know how I am feeling?” Our emotional brain or limbic system started forming during our first three years of life before we developed words and rational thinking. It recorded our earliest emotional experiences. These memories are mostly unconscious, but shape the way we react to situations. The emotional brain plays an important role in ensuring our survival. When danger is perceived, the emotional brain sets off an alarm. This alarm is advantageous if you need to react quickly to get out of the way of a speeding car. However, this alarm is not helpful when a colleague questions your decision during a meeting.

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