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Low value men have trouble finding love, work and success in life.

Here are the top red flags to watch out for.

If a man is displaying these traits he’s setting himself up for failure unless he changes track and commits to breaking these terrible habits.

30 warning traits of a low value man

If this was the stock market, the indicator would say “strong sell.”

These warning traits aren’t always a man’s fault and may occur for many reasons.

But it’s ultimately his responsibility to do his best to change them.

1) Hair-trigger temper

One of the top warning traits of a low value man is a hair-trigger temper. There are times that try all of our patience and get our goat. But if a man is flying off the handle every time a driver does something stupid in traffic …

Or cursing someone out just for stepping in front of him wrong at the grocery store?

He’s got issues.

This level of anger is not only unhealthy, it’s venomous to any potential romantic partner and also gets in the way of healthy friendships.

2) Intense neediness

We all get needy from time to time. There’s nothing wrong with that. But intense neediness is among the clearest warning traits of a low value man.

That’s because it displays immense insecurity.

The tragedy is that sometimes a man isn’t even low value and has great things going for him, but because he believes he’s not good enough he broadcasts strong needy vibes that scare others away.

Sad.

3) Romantic codependency

Another of the warning traits of a low value man is romantic codependency. A guy who’s just not worth his salt tends to enter into relationships and became either overly needy or overly distant. He craves constant validation or he feels uncomfortable around too much intimacy but “obligated” to provide for his “victim” partner. While the warning signs in this article will help you deal with being a low value man (or being in a relationship with one) it can be helpful to speak to a relationship coach about your situation. With a professional relationship coach, you can get advice tailored to the specific issues you’re facing in your love life. Relationship Hero is a site where highly trained relationship coaches help people navigate complex and difficult love situations, like codependency.

They’re popular because they genuinely help people solve problems.

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Well, after going through difficulties in my own love life and realizing I had a lot of the traits of a codependent guy, I reached out to them. After feeling helpless for so long, they gave me a unique insight into the dynamics of my relationship, including practical advice on how to overcome the issues I was facing.

I was blown away by how genuine, understanding and professional they were.

In just a few minutes you can connect with a certified relationship coach and get tailor-made advice specific to your situation whether you’re struggling with codependency or involved with a man who is.

4) Rampant dishonesty

Another of the awful warning traits of a low value man is rampant dishonesty.

I’m talking about the level of dishonesty that boggles the mind.

Little lies, big lies, monumental lies.

The kind of dishonesty where you just don’t know what to believe anymore. Low value men lie all the time because it’s easy. The truth is hard, but it’s worth it.

5) Victim mentality

Low value men almost all have this trait.

They believe they are victims of life. Maybe they are in various ways. Many of us are. But the low value man takes this to an extreme. He parades his victim status, he uses it to get power, he manipulates pity and compassion into taking power over others and getting his way. His victim mentality simply makes him a pain to be around, because it never lets up.

6) Bullying behavior

Being tough can be a very useful and helpful trait in a man. Being a bully, however, is never useful and is the mark of a weak and low value man.

Why?

Because bullies pick on those weaker than them and push around people they don’t understand. It’s simply useless, weak behavior that creates problems where there don’t need to be any and spreads more negativity and drama in the world.

7) Lost in life

The idea of being low value is in itself a fairly flat judgment.

Value changes, just like the stock market changes.

But this article is about assessing total value in the current moment.

And another of the biggest warning traits of a low value man is a man who just doesn’t have a clue how to organize his life and his career. He feels deflated and wants something interesting to happen in his life but nothing ever does.

If that’s you, I relate. I’ve been there many times.

So:

What does it take to build a life filled with exciting opportunities and passion-fueled adventures?

Most of us hope for a life like that, but we feel stuck, unable to achieve the goals we wishfully set at the start of each year. I felt the same way until I took part in Life Journal. Created by teacher and life coach Jeanette Brown, this was the ultimate wake-up call I needed to stop dreaming and start taking action.

8) Lack of discipline

A big part of getting to the life we dream about is discipline.

Low value men don’t have that.

If they once did, they soon let it go.

It’s just too hard…

That’s the thing about discipline: it’s f*cking hard.

Getting up early, preparing meals that are healthy, paying attention to your responsibilities….

It’s hard, but it’s worth it!

9) A greedy or poverty mindset

Being poor or rich has no bearing on your value as a human being: at least it sure as hell shouldn’t…

But a poverty mindset does have bearing on your value.

Low value men may be quite rich but still have this mindset.

It’s full of greed, never having enough and believing that in order for one person to win the other must lose. If the low value man in question is poor, he will consistently blame all his problems on “the rich.” If the low value man is rich, he will consistently blame all his problems on the “lazy trash” he claims deserve to be pushed down.

Both are stuck in a low value, harmful mindset.

10) Chronic laziness

Taking a break after working hard is a great idea.

But a lifetime of continuous breaks results in slovenly failure and misery.

Low value men tend to be chronically lazy. They just can’t or won’t knuckle down and do what they say.

“Tomorrow, tomorrow,” is their favorite word.

11) Arrogant spiritual beliefs

Some of the lowest-value men you’ll ever meet consider themselves to be gods. They may inhale incense all day and know every yoga posture by heart.

They take one look at someone walking by and grimace:

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“Those chakras are so filthy. Man…:

Arrogant spiritual beliefs that we are more “enlightened” or “pure” than others are really prevalent these days, especially in the New Age movement.

When it comes to your personal spiritual journey, which toxic habits have you unknowingly picked up?

Is it the need to be positive all the time? Is it a sense of superiority over those who lack spiritual awareness?

Even well-meaning gurus and experts can get it wrong.

The result is that you end up achieving the opposite of what you’re searching for. You do more to harm yourself than to heal.

You may even hurt those around you.

In this eye-opening video, the shaman Rudá Iandé explains how so many of us fall into the toxic spirituality trap. He himself went through a similar experience at the start of his journey. As he mentions in the video, spirituality should be about empowering yourself. Not suppressing emotions, not judging others, but forming a pure connection with who you are at your core. If this is what you’d like to achieve, click here to watch the free video. Even if you’re well into your spiritual journey, it’s never too late to unlearn the myths you’ve bought for truth!

12) Entitled privilege

Another of the common warning traits of a low value man is entitled privilege. For whatever reason, a guy who thinks the world and other people should roll out the red carpet for him everywhere he goes, gets tiring pretty fast.

Especially when he didn’t earn it.

The sons of privilege often have so many problems in life, and part of the reason is that it’s so tempting for them simply to lounge back and make demands of those around them.

“Do you even know who my dad is?”

13) Abusive behavior

Abusive men are low value.

Regardless of the traumas and cultures that may have produced them, there’s really no excuse. Men who hit women and verbally or psychologically abuse women are extremely low value. Although it may be tempting to show them empathy and care for them, men such as this are often a ticking time bomb. What’s worse is that they often can’t begin to improve until they make that decision for themselves.

14) Sexual aggressiveness

All heterosexual guys enjoy seeing a beautiful woman walk by or smile at them.

High value men smile back or say hi.

Low value men catcall, make disgusting sexual remarks, mimic a groping motion or whistle.

If you’re 15 maybe you can be excused, but if a man is above that age and he’s acting like a carnivorous beast that’s just scented raw meat when a beautiful woman walks into view?

He’s low value and he’s making a fool of himself.

15) Overly agreeable

It’s nice not to have to fight and argue a lot.

But men who are overly agreeable tend to be very low value.

They put being liked and avoiding conflict ahead of actual competence and truth. The smile and nod approach may work when you want to ignore a pushy salesperson or stressful situation. But when you’re going through your whole life agreeing with everything you hear, it’s only a matter of time until you end up losing all respect for yourself and others do the same. Avoid fighting and drama by all means, but don’t do what low value men do and agree with everyone just to be liked. It’s weak.

16) Overly argumentative

On the flip side, a man who argues with everything he hears is also low value. Nobody needs this, and it will trip him up at work, at home and in his personal life. There’s plenty to argue about, but most of it is also a waste of time.

Respectful discussion, sure.

Constant argumentation about everything under the sun? I think most of us would prefer to skip that completely.

17) Zero sense of humor

Some guys are funnier than others.

But a high value man always has a little sense of humor, even if it’s basic. When a man has zero sense of humor, it’s a warning sign that there’s just something missing a little bit in his soul.

The least he could do is Google a few, right?

18) Consumed with vanity

Another of the worst warning traits of a low value man is an obsession with vanity. If he’s looking in the mirror constantly, grooming himself like a supermodel before even going out to shop for groceries and apoplectic over a pimple, he’s low value. Regardless of why he has this issue, it just makes this guy intolerable to be around or deal with.

We all want to look good, but don’t take it to extremes.

19) Plays the blame game

As part of their frequent victim mentality, low value men love to blame others for their problems. They don’t tend to take rejection or failure well, even though it’s part of life for all of us. Instead they find a group, individual, ideology or situation that’s fully to blame.

They didn’t succeed in their career because of a bad boss…

They divorced four times because they married bitches…

Are you still buying it?

20) Stingy with praise

Low value men like to dish out blame, but they’re much more stinting on praise. They tend to forget the friends, family and others who support them along the way and take all the credit for themselves. And if they do thank others for what they’ve done, it’s usually to get something or manipulate them. This stinginess of spirit is really sad to see, and it’s often the result of a low value man feeling very insecure and craving all the attention and praise for himself.

This deep need for validation is unattractive and weak.

21) Expectations without action

Low value men like to build a life on expectations.

I am smart, therefore I deserve to be rich.

We all know life’s not fair and we don’t get what we deserve most of the time. But low value men refuse to work on themselves and take action about this. Which is what someone must do to create real results in the world.

Earlier I mentioned Life Journal, and I truly found it extremely helpful.

The difference factor here is that Jeanette Brown’s guidance is so much more effective than other self-development programs. That’s because she’s found a unique way of putting YOU in control of your life. She’s not interested in telling you how to live your life. Instead, she’ll give you lifelong tools that’ll help you achieve all your goals, keeping the focus on what you’re passionate about.

And that’s what makes Life Journal so powerful.

If you’re ready to start living the life you’ve always dreamt of, you need to check out Jeanette’s advice. Who knows, today could be the first day of your new life.

Here’s the link once again.

22) Fixation on female appearance

As I was saying, extreme vanity is the sign of a low value man because it’s useless and shows insecurity.

Another low value trait is a fixation on female appearance.

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This also relates to the point I made about men who behave sexually aggressively to women. Appreciating a beautiful woman is perfectly healthy and much of our greatest art and music is about that! But being completely physically focused on sexual attributes of a woman is shallow and denigrating.

Of course you notice whether you find a woman attractive or not.

What you don’t do, if you’re a high value man, is sit and focus only on this as your measure of this woman’s worth.

23) Lack of resourcefulness

Low value men complain about lack of resources.

They’re always the victim, and if it’s not the victim of people or a situation, it’s the victim of a lack of having what they needed to do a job or resolve a situation. “How was I supposed to get fit? There was no gym anywhere close to where I was living the last five years,” the low value man says. In our first world, many of those who are not homeless or disabled don’t really suffer from a lack of resources.

They suffer from a lack of imagination and will.

As renowned coach Tony Robbins says here, the problem is rarely a lack of resources, it’s a lack of resourcefulness.

24) Resignation in the face of difficulty

When the going gets tough, the tough get going.

But the low value men? They just get running.

They want to be as far away from hard situations and jobs as they can be.

If things become difficult, they make some excuses and duck out.

When the kitchen gets too hot they throw up their hands and scurry out to call the fire department. If the low value man was in Mission Impossible he would simply say: “this mission is impossible man, I’m out.”

It would make a pretty boring film, wouldn’t it?

It makes for a pretty boring life, too!

25) He’s just too … ‘nice’

What’s wrong with being really, really nice?

Quite a bit, actually.

For one thing, it’s just totally counterproductive.

Being overly nice leads to seeking out ways to please others and acquiesce to their demands and desires, always putting yourself last. It also can be a form of aggression and expecting people to treat you positively because you’re nice.

Be genteel, kind and all of that. Even be nice.

But don’t be too nice. It’s fake and kind of creepy. Also it doesn’t work.

26) Takes rejection personally

It’s perfectly understandable to be upset and even angry when you get rejected. Nobody likes it, and those who say it’s no big deal are those who usually haven’t been truly rejected by someone or something they really, really were hoping for. But the low value man goes farther than just getting down about being rejected: he takes it intensely personally and absorbs all the offense into his own unique self. In other words if a woman rejects him because he’s not very good looking, he complains about how he’ll “never” meet a woman who truly loves him… …Instead of realizing this kind of woman who discarded him on that basis clearly didn’t truly love him anyway.

This pattern of self-blame and victimization can be hard to break.

27) Lets others define him

Imagine if you stood on a street corner for a day and every thought a passerby had stuck to you in the form of a sticky note.

Can you imagine all the amazing, awful, strange, insane and nonsensical labels that would be on you?

“Weird hair, f*ck I’m hungry.”

“That guy looks really hot, I wish he was my boyfriend.”

“Goddamn people who wear penny loafers are so pretentious…”

“Should I jack this guy or would he fight back? Wonder what he’s got…nah, knockoff Rolex and $100 bucks at best…”

And so on…

If you put all these inner narratives on you in the form of stickers you’d be a schizophrenic posterboard.

So imagine if you based your identity and self-worth on that.

Because that’s what low-value men (and people) do.

Don’t do it!

Even if you only believe the “good” labels, you’ll end up buying into an imaginary reality that’s not very useful for your actual life and decision-making.

28) Gets caught in the ups and downs

Low value men are just like the rest of us, only more so. Whether it was a poor raising or bad luck, they tend to have picked up most of the bad habits that the rest of us have been able to at least partly ditch. Another one of these is getting completely slammed by life’s ups and downs. I’m not talking here about psychiatric conditions like bipolar which are clinical and differ in intensity and character. Noted bipolar man Vincent Van Gogh, for example, was certainly not “low value,” although his failures with women were downright depressing. But the low value man gets caught in the ups and downs in the sense that he has no fixed will or state. If he wins the lottery then life is perfect and will never be bad again. If he breaks up then he wants to die and will never be happy again.

Fair enough…

But apply this to every seemingly minor occurrence in life and you have …

A petulant child (certainly not a man).

29) Has minimal discernment

Low value men don’t tend to have much discernment. They don’t care about quality.

A McDonalds hamburger or a lovingly-prepared meal made with fine French cuisine? Whatever… it’s all food, right?

All goes to the same place.

The low value man doesn’t tend to care much about his surroundings or have standards. He’ll stay in a hotel with cockroaches or date a woman with a drug habit. He’s good for whatever, but not because he’s open-minded: because he’s apathetic and barely notices the difference.

30) Tries to be always positive

This trait often overlaps with spiritual arrogance.

Toxic positivity is a disturbing and growing problem: men (and women) who force themselves to “feel” positive or at least look like it in order to raise their “vibrations.” What are vibrations? I have no idea, but I’m sure they exist because the term is so vague it can literally mean anything.

I’m sorry if my skepticism gives off a bad energy…

Always trying to be positive is inauthentic and weak and approval-seeking.

Men who do this all the time are low value (and really annoying).

The path to value

The path to value is all about finding your own personal power and creativity.

Being a low value man is not a final judgment call.

If you feel you may be “low value” don’t take this as a dismissal of your potential.

The greatest of the greats all started at the bottom.

By charting a course for your life and your daily actions and habits, you can work your way more towards becoming the man you want to be.

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