Infatuation Rules
Infatuation Rules
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What is butch? Traditionally, in lesbian culture, the word 'butch' refers to a woman whose gender expression and traits present as typically 'masculine'. Being butch is about playing with and challenging traditional binary male and female gender roles and expressions.
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Read More »What is butch? Traditionally, in lesbian culture, the word ‘butch’ refers to a woman whose gender expression and traits present as typically ‘masculine’. Being butch is about playing with and challenging traditional binary male and female gender roles and expressions. The contemporary Western idea of butch gained a formal identity in 1940/50s American underground lesbian bars, where the butch/femme dynamic both mirrored and subverted the expected gender norms of mainstream society. Yet butches have been around, challenging societal understandings of gender roles, across cultures and throughout history. Butch is not just one thing, as most queer cultures across the globe have their own variation of the term specific to their own social context (such as location, race and class). Some of the more recognisable terms include: Masculine of Centre, Stud, Boi, Soft Butch, AG, Dyke, Stone butch, Daddy, Tomboy, Camionera, Futch, Stemme, Top. Butch can mean many things to other LGBT subcultures as well, but today, to talk about what butch means to me, I’m looking at it as a cis lesbian woman.
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Read More »I had a damaging understanding of what masculinity was, which led me to reject anything feminine because I associated it with weakness, fragility and being docile - all things I perceived as negative. It wasn’t just about being masculine, it was about being an alpha male and embracing harmful stereotypes of what a man should look like, because even though I wasn’t one, I wasn’t that kind of woman either. I was trying to mould myself into ideas and a culture that wasn’t necessarily good for anyone. It was not designed for me and actually, my butchness posed a direct threat. I am discovering that being butch isn’t about fitting into expectations, it is about shattering them. I recently read an interview with Tabitha Benjamin, who runs trans-inclusive lesbian club night, Butch Please, where she stated, ‘Butch, for me, is nothing to do with being masculine. It’s actually something about being really feminine, about identifying as a woman’. This really resonated with me. While I still have an extensive blazer, brogue and bowtie collection, increasingly I am playing with colour, patterns, feminine clothing, jewellry, make-up, traditional African clothing, and how to embody butchness while still wearing a pair of hot pink ‘pum pum’ shorts. Butch, for me, has previously been about how I am perceived, something that’s out of my control, a label imposed upon me. I am now claiming autonomy over that. Sometimes I find it funny that people think of me as butch at all. I wear “boy clothes” and have short hair, so I guess I can see why if we’re oversimplifying things, but I am finally able to embrace being a flamboyant flouncing camp sissy dyke too. I am discovering that being butch isn’t about fitting into expectations, it is about shattering them with the heel of my glitter Doc Martens. Increasingly, it’s becoming more important to appreciate, represent, celebrate and protect butch identities.
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Read More »As with any identity that challenges expectations, butch people can often receive antagonism or backlash for simply being themselves. This can be in the form of verbal or physical attacks, being repeatedly and pointedly called ‘sir’, being challenged in bathrooms or told to stay out of ‘female spaces’. All of these things have happened to me, and I’m sure they won’t be unfamiliar experiences for many other butch people. This is what happens when people try to apply narrow and inflexible definitions of what ‘womanhood’ is. Most of us will never fit into that mould; we were never meant to and as long as it is something that is used to oppress rather than allow freedom - I, personally, have no desire to fit in.
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