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What happens when a woman has multiple partners?

“Having multiple partners obviously increases your chances of contracting any Sexually Transmitted Infections (STI), a lot of which there are no cures for. If you are in a long-term relationship and you have other sexual partners without your partner's consent, it can lead to a lot of relationship problems,” she says.

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Having sex is a personal choice, but it can have dire consequences, which can leave you with health or emotional problems. Having multiple sexual relationships also has consequences. Move! speaks to sexologist, Dr Jireh Serfontein, about the consequences of being promiscuous.

A PERSONAL CHOICE

There are various reasons people choose to have multiple partners. This choice will normally depend on what you are comfortable with. For instance, people in polygamous relationships have multiple partners and it is acceptable to those involved. Dr Jireh says in her experience, a lot of patients she meets often show signs of ignorance when it comes to promiscuity. “A lot of my patients have multiple partners, not understanding the health implications of unsafe sex. Having multiple partners is not the issue, but having unsafe sex is,” says Dr Jireh. She adds that if you have multiple partners, you not should not only be thinking about your physical health, but your mental health as well. “A lot of women are bullied into having sex, which might result in emotional problems. Be safe and always use protection,” she says. “Your partner doesn’t care about his or your health if he is not willing to use protection. I recommend getting a full STI screen if you had multiple sexual partners over the festive season.”

RISKY BEHAVIOUR

Dr Jireh advises that you should prioritise your health at all times. It is important to always take precautions whether you have multiple partners or not. She says for some people, choosing to have multiple sex partners may be because of emotional or physiological factors related to risky behaviour such as alcohol abuse or the use of illicit drugs. “Having multiple partners obviously increases your chances of contracting any Sexually Transmitted Infections (STI), a lot of which there are no cures for. If you are in a long-term relationship and you have other sexual partners without your partner's consent, it can lead to a lot of relationship problems,” she says.

FACTS TO REMEMBER

Avert, an international organisation that focuses on HIV/Aids education gives the following tips if you are sexually active: Unprotected vaginal or anal sex puts you at risk of contracting HIV and other STIs. During unprotected sex, HIV can be transmitted via bodily fluids such as blood, semen, vaginal fluid, pre-cum or anal mucus. There is a higher risk of HIV infection during anal sex because the lining of the anus is more delicate than the lining of the vagina. It is more easily damaged, providing entry points for HIV. The risk of HIV transmission during unprotected oral sex is very low, but there is a risk of STIs. Using condoms is the most effective way to prevent the transmission of HIV and STIs. People living with HIV are more likely to pass the virus on to others in the first few months after infection as there are high levels of the virus in their bodily fluids at this point.

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Yes, it's absolutely possible to be friends with your ex. Whether it's a good idea will depend on the situation and the people involved. Some people are able to have healthy, positive relationships with their exes without any difficulty or complications, whereas others find that trying to stay friends ends up being unnecessarily messy or even painful. According to licensed marriage therapist Weena Cullins, LCMFT, sometimes two people find they don't work as romantic partners, but there are aspects of their relationship that are still valuable and can be healthily maintained through a friendship. "Being friends with your ex can be a good idea when other aspects of the relationship were valuable to your growth, development, or life goals," she explains. "If you and your ex identify that you make better business partners, workout buddies, or friends, and you are able to maintain healthy boundaries with each other, then creating an authentic friendship could work." She adds that it can be especially beneficial if you and your ex have children together. Though she says friendships aren't necessary for successful co-parenting, it may create an easier environment for both the parents and the kids. "It can also provide increased flexibility with managing schedules, discipline issues, and the general flow of information." That said, being friends with an ex can sometimes make it harder to successfully move on from the relationship if there are still lingering romantic feelings for each other or if tension arises when you both start dating other people.

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