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What does a marriage breakdown look like?

there is a loss of warmth and friendliness in the relationship, one or both of you speak of no longer being in love. you feel tired and less able to meet responsibilities at work and at home. your arguments about the children continue. one of you has an addiction that is affecting the relationship.

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Breaking up is a tough time. It can be better or worse depending on how you deal with it. Here is some information to help you recognise how you’re feeling, and why. You’ll also find tips for getting through the end of your relationship in a healthy way.

Knowing when your relationship is in trouble

According to Relationships Australia, noticing early warning signs of relationship breakdown can help a couple resolve conflicts. Early warning signs include:

you don’t do things together as much as before

you have recurring arguments about the same issues that are never resolved

you feel dissatisfied and unhappy

you have sex less often, not at all, or it isn't what it used to be

one partner spends increasing time on interests and activities outside the relationship

there is a loss of warmth and friendliness in the relationship, one or both of you speak of no longer being in love you feel tired and less able to meet responsibilities at work and at home

your arguments about the children continue

one of you has an addiction that is affecting the relationship

that is affecting the relationship you or your partner have had intimate relationships outside of your relationship

one of you is abusive, degrading, controlling and dominating, indicating family violence.

These behaviours can be signs of a relationship breakdown, and may trigger the start of a lonely and worrying time. How you cope over that time will depend on your ability to manage your own thoughts and actions, and to recognise when things are out of hand.

How break-ups can make you feel

Expect some emotional ups and downs when you and your partner separate. At times, you may feel excited about your new life, and free. But you will probably have very sad feelings too and a sense of loss. You may even feel scared. It’s understandable if you experience negative emotions from a sense of loss. Separation can be painful, and may involve the loss of:

your family structure and routines

daily contact with your children

the family home

friends and social life

support and approval from your family and community

meaning and identity

the opportunity to have children

financial security .

These losses may be even harder to accept if you don’t want the separation, or your family and friends don’t support you. Separation can also bring up practical problems, such as where you will live, how you will support yourself (and any children), and how you will share parenting. Money is a particular issue for many couples who separate, and women are more likely than men to experience financial hardship after divorce.

Common feelings

Despite the circumstances of the relationship breakdown, you may still feel sadness, rejection and confusion. Your world has been turned upside down, and with so much change you may feel overwhelmed. You might find yourself experiencing a range of behaviours such as crying, having trouble sleeping, losing your appetite, or feeling unable to concentrate at work. If you have children, you may also struggle to look after them for a while. You may feel happy one day and sad the next, or have mixed feelings in the same day.

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Let’s look at some common feelings during a separation. You may feel:

relieved that things are finally out in the open

nervous about how you will juggle work and home commitments

positive and excited about the future

worried about legal matters, finances and perhaps a new relationship

sad, consumed by the loss, unable to move on or simply numb

ready for change and new beginnings

concerned about the impact on your children.

In other words, a relationship breakdown is a time of heightened and mixed emotions. But, if you take time and care for yourself, you will come out the other side. If you are experiencing parenting issues you can call Parentline Tel. 1300 301 300.

Grief is a process

Regardless of whether you initiated the separation or not, you may still experience grief. Someone that you used to care about, or may still love, is moving out of your life. To cope with your grief, let’s look at things that might help you: Look after yourself – try to eat healthily , keep your sleeping and exercise routines, and plan for treats and the things you enjoy. , keep your sleeping and routines, and plan for treats and the things you enjoy. Everyone copes differently – you could try to keep busy, perhaps distract yourself with new people and new activities, or talk to friends and family and others who can support you, or consider some quiet reflective time by yourself.

Avoid rushing into a new relationship.

Avoid using alcohol or other drugs to ease any emotional pain.

or other to ease any emotional pain. Talk to your GP, or seek counselling , if you have any concerns about your health and wellbeing. Beyond your grief, you need to be practical too. It’s important that you look after your finances, for example. Talk to Centrelink (Tel. 13 61 50) if you need advice on income support and family assistance payments. Call on financial counselling services if you need help paying your bills, sorting out your superannuation entitlements, budgeting or dealing with debt. Both the Australian Government and private providers offer these services. Consider family dispute resolution services to resolve disputes, reach agreements and co-parent cooperatively. Contact Relationships Australia on Tel. 1300 364 277.

What’s not a healthy response to separation

Relationship breakdown is a risk factor for worsening family violence and depression. (Some people can have an extreme response to separation, which can be dangerous to them, their partner or their family.) So, be familiar with the signs of an abnormal response to separation. And know when to get help. Call Safe Steps Tel. 1800 015 188 or 1800RESPECT Tel. 1800 737 732 if you are experiencing family violence. Call the Men’s Referral Service Tel. 1300 766 491 or MensLine Tel. 1300 78 99 78 if you are using family violence.

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Anything that is an attempt to belittle, demoralise or punish a person is unhelpful, and in some cases may even be illegal (such as vandalising a car or other property). Regardless of how bad you feel after separation, it doesn’t help to:

steal from each other

lie about each other

seek to damage each other’s new life

take out your frustration and anger on your children.

The separation will be easier on everyone if each party takes responsibility for behaving with respect and maturity.

Depression

Sadness experienced from a relationship breakdown may be intense, which may lead to depression. Depression is a serious illness that affects mental and physical health. People with depression find it hard to function every day. They may become socially isolated, or unproductive at work and home, and stop enjoying their usual activities. Other signs of depression can be significant weight change, lack of concentration, and reliance on alcohol or drugs. If these problems last longer than 2 weeks, it’s time to seek professional help.

Violence

Another unhealthy response to separation is violence. Some people feel enormous rage when their relationship falls apart, and they may try to punish their partner. If you feel you cannot control your anger, or you are worried about your partner’s anger, please seek help immediately. Family violence , stalking and abusive or threatening language and behaviour are never acceptable

The safety of everyone in the relationship, including children, must come first.

If your partner is violent:

avoid contact as much as you can

only meet in a public place

ask a friend or family member to be with you at meetings

don’t respond with aggression

keep a record of abusive incidents, including stalking

seek legal advice about what you can do

contact a family violence support service such as 1800RESPECT Tel. 1800 737 732. If you think that you are in immediate danger, call 000 for the police.

Where to find help

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