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What does 60 40 mean in a relationship?

What Is The 60/40 Rule In Relationships? You see, most people think a good relationship is a 50/50 proposition. If, however, both partners instead focus on giving 60% and taking just 40%, the relationship has an overwhelming chance of being successful. Think of this as the “golden rule” of relationships.

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We all want a happy, loving, and successful relationship.

So, what does it take to create one?

There are a lot of factors (like respect, communication, shared values and interests, forgiveness, etc) that contribute to a healthy relationship. However, there’s an all-inclusive “short-cut” you can take to get there too. It’s a simple concept called the “60/40” rule. But don’t mistake simplicity for effectiveness. This works if you faithfully adhere to it.

What Is The 60/40 Rule In Relationships?

You see, most people think a good relationship is a 50/50 proposition.

If, however, both partners instead focus on giving 60% and taking just 40%, the relationship has an overwhelming chance of being successful. Think of this as the “golden rule” of relationships. You get out what you put in. One of best things you can do is learn your partner’s “love language” and then focus on filling that need every day. This is an idea based on a book called “The 5 Love Languages” by Gary Chapman. Here’s a quick reference guide from the book, though it’s worth reading in full: You might find that your love language and your partner’s love language are different, and in a 50/50 relationship this can cause a major problem. You might be giving love the way you want to receive it, but you need to take the time and effort to find out how your partner feels most love. If you put in the extra effort (the metaphorical 60%) to give your partner love on their terms, and your partner does the same to give you love on your terms, the relationship will most likely thrive! If you would like more information on creating and cultivating a successful relationship, please contact our office at amanda.itzkoff@gmail.com. If you feel you could use additional help, please contact our office at 917-609-4990 to arrange a consultation.

Be Well,

Dr. Amanda Itzkoff

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