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What color increases intimacy?

Type 1: Bonding Intimacy (Green) Rosenau's pyramid is the Green layer, which represents bonding intimacy. Bonding intimacy is the expressing of feelings; connecting behaviors such as: a hand on the shoulder.

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Physical intimacy includes various kinds of physical connection — not just sex. There are various layers to physical intimacy, demonstrated in the figure below by Dr. Doug Rosenau. In Dr. Rosenau's color-coded system, each color or layer represents various physical aspects of intimate relating. Together, these types of physical intimacy can lend themselves to a caring, loving, and trustworthy relationship.

Type 1: Bonding Intimacy (Green)

At the base of Dr. Rosenau's pyramid is the Green layer, which represents bonding intimacy. Bonding intimacy is the expressing of feelings; connecting behaviors such as:

a hand on the shoulder

a hug

looking into another's eyes

listening intently

Bonding intimacy not only happens with spouses; it is what happens between friends and family. This type of intimacy—often referred to as fellowship—is what occurs on Sundays at church as we express warmth and love to brothers and sisters of the faith.

Type 2: Coupling Intimacy (Purple)

The next level of intimacy is coded Purple for passion. Filled with the excitement and desire for touch, coupling intimacy includes:

kissing

cuddling

making out

romantic feelings

hand holding

sensual touch

flirting

These types of behaviors are not done with just anyone. They express intentional movement toward an exclusive relationship of dating or engagement.

Type 3: Sexual Intimacy (Orange)

The third category for intimacy is colored Orange for sexual intimacy and called igniting passion. This includes all other forms of green and purple intimacy with the added layers of:

genital touching

intercourse

the full sexual experience

In Christian circles, Orange intimacy is reserved for the marital relationship. And though intercourse is the ultimate symbol for intimate relating, sex should not be the only expression of physical intimacy. As depicted in Dr. Rosenau's figure, sexual intimacy is built on the foundation of the bonding and coupling types of physical connecting. Thus, true physical intimacy in marriage includes all forms of physical connection, including hand-holding, looking into your spouse's eyes, hugs, listening intently, expressing warmth, kissing, flirting, romance, etc. Without the Green and the Purple types of physical connection, the sexual connection can be lacking in the intimacy for which it is designed.

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How does a guy feel after kissing a girl?

You can feel his heart race. You'll probably also notice that he's blushing or breathing a little more heavily. A passionate makeout session releases adrenaline–not only does it kick up his heart rate, but it also boosts his energy. Check if he suddenly seems happy and hyper.

This article was co-authored by Eddy Baller and by wikiHow staff writer, Madeleine Flamiano . Eddy Baller is a Dating Coach and the Owner of a dating consulting and coaching service, Conquer and Win, based in Vancouver, Canada. Coaching since 2011, Eddy specializes in confidence building, advanced social skills, and relationships. Conquer and Win helps men worldwide have the love lives they deserve. His work has been featured in The Art of Manliness, LifeHack, and POF among others. This article has been viewed 115,465 times.

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The best way to know if a guy enjoyed a kiss is to ask him, but there are lots of other clues you can look for. For instance, if you feel his heart racing or notice him blushing or breathing heavily while you lock lips, that probably means he’s feeling excited. During the kiss, he might also pull you closer, run his hands through your hair, or caress your face, arms, or shoulders. When you pull away, pay attention to how he looks at you. You might see him smiling, making intense eye contact, or looking at your lips. If he leans in for another kiss, that’s also a great sign. He might also keep touching you or start kissing you in other places, like your neck, ears, or shoulders. Some guys might tell you just how much they enjoyed the kiss. For instance, he might say something like, “Wow, that was incredible,” or “I love kissing you.”

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