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What are 3 signs of a toxic friendship?

Toxic friendship signs They disrespect your boundaries. ... They always need something from you. ... They don't take accountability. ... They may weaponize their struggles. ... They make you feel guilty for spending time with other people. ... They dismiss your values. ... They ignore your efforts to be a good friend to them.

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Friends make our lives richer — at least that's the goal.

But every now and again, friendships take more than they give. While ebbs and flows are commonplace in relationships, it's important to be able to distinguish when a friendship — or any relationship, for that matter — takes a toxic turn. You have probably seen examples of toxic friendships in movies or TV shows — for example, Anna Delvey and her "friends" in "Inventing Anna," "The Plastics" in the blockbuster movie "Mean Girls," or even (dare we say it) Ferris and Cameron in "Ferris Bueller's Day Off." While it's easy to call out — and criticize — toxic friendships on the silver screen, it can be difficult to identify the warning signs in your own life — especially in a friendship that's meaningful to you. Karina Aybar-Jacobs, a licensed therapist and coach, says to consider if you've been feeling depleted, guilty or inadequate — even if you can think of countless ways you've been a good friend to that person. When you have a deep connection with someone, it can be hard to put your history aside and see your friendship for what it is. In this case, read through this list of warning signs to determine if your relationship is doing more harm than good — plus, get expert advice on how and when you should cut ties.

Toxic friendship signs

1. They disrespect your boundaries.

Communicating boundaries to anyone can be extremely challenging — but it's even harder if it's with a friend who continually dismisses them, explained Aybar-Jacobs. "Even if you've told them that you have prior commitments or can't be available, they'll still ask for your availability and make you feel guilty for not showing up for them at the time they want."

2. They always need something from you.

Aybar-Jacobs said that a toxic friend will always need you at their beck and call, but may not reciprocate. "They'll ask for favors or ask you to be there, and will guilt trip you if you're not readily available," she said. They may also keep stock of the things they do for you and use it against you, so they can say things like "I did this for you, why didn't you do this for me?" Aybar-Jacobs explained.

3. They don't take accountability.

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Aybar-Jacobs stressed that this is the "hallmark of a toxic friendship — typically, a friend who doesn't take accountability for the way they treat you will apologize in a way that doesn't acknowledge that their behavior was hurting you. For instance, they may get you a coffee or buy you something instead of apologizing for their behavior and actively vowing to change it.

4. They may weaponize their struggles.

Everyone goes through hardships of many forms in day-to-day life. But, a toxic friend may overstep in asking you to be there for them while going through something tough — and then may start weaponizing their struggles as a means to manipulate you into doing things for them or spending time with them. "Once you recognize a pattern of them weaponizing their emotional or mental state to make you feel guilty, you can try to offer concrete examples to them of how you can help, and then set your own boundaries," she said. Anna Delvey from "Inventing Anna" is a prime example of a toxic friend, as she continually disrespects boundaries and lies to her friends. Aaron Epstein / Netflix

5. They make you feel guilty for spending time with other people.

Aybar-Jacobs said that a toxic friend, more than likely, will get jealous and possessive if you're hanging out with other friends. They might tell you that they don't feel like you're ever there for them if you hang out with other friends — even though you know that you've shown up for that person, thus dismissing any effort you've put into the relationship.

6. They dismiss your values.

Peer pressure isn't just an issue that affects younger people — sometimes adults, especially toxic friends, will pressure you into saying or doing something you don't want because it may benefit them. "Let's say they're trying to pressure you into doing something that's out of character ... like drinking more than you want to, or dating someone you wouldn't date normally, or opening up about something you don't feel ready to share. A toxic friend will find a way to minimize those values," said Aybar-Jacobs.

7. They ignore your efforts to be a good friend to them

Often in toxic friendships, the toxic person may dismiss your help when you try to give it to them — but will still make you feel obligated to give them help or hand-hold them.

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In this case, Aybar-Jacobs recommends referring them to someone else for help. "Perhaps it would be appropriate to refer them to a mental health professional or have them ask for other friends to step in to help," Aybar-Jacobs adds.

How to deal with toxic friends

If you feel like you're in a toxic friendship, Aybar-Jacobs advised that this is a good opportunity to work on building confidence in setting boundaries. "If a relationship gets to a point where you start questioning your identity, you're not honoring your values, you're constantly feeling depleted ... it's time to reevaluate the friendship, and it's OK to walk away from a friendship like that," she says. Sometimes, we might want to put some work into examining if we can mend the relationship or change the dynamic. Aybar-Jacobs said, if you value your relationship with that person, it's important to be honest about how you feel without being too accusatory — in other words, making sure you're approaching the conversation with respect for both parties' feelings. "Even if you've told them that you have prior commitments or can't be available, they'll still ask for your availability and make you feel guilty for not showing up for them at the time they want." She said a good way to approach a conversation like this is to say something along the lines of: "Hey, I wanted to talk to you because I really value our relationship — and when you do X, it makes me feel like Z... I wanted to bring it up so we can move forward with this and make sure we're showing up for each other in a healthy way." If after approaching the conversation in a validating and empathetic way, the person gets defensive and refuses to take any accountability, then that's an opportunity for you to decide whether you want to keep that friend around, Aybar-Jacobs said.

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