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Is my relationship healthy or toxic?

"In healthy relationships, you have a foundation of trust, stability, and security," says Greer. In toxic ones, you usually have to deal with a base level of anxiety because you never know if your partner will show up, either emotionally or physically.

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What you each focus on is a big part of forming a blissed-out connection. "In a happy relationship, both partners acknowledge and convey what the other person does to please them," says New York City marriage and sex therapist Jane Greer, Ph.D., and author of What About Me? Stop Selfishness From Ruining Your Relationship. "In toxic ones, they only talk about what disappoints them, and they often communicate these issues in a critical, blaming way."

3. How often you employ the silent treatment.

In a healthy relationship: Even when one of you is upset with the other, you still think about their feelings and don't want to cause any unnecessary pain via ignoring them. In a toxic relationship: One person completely ices the other out after a fight. Beyond being a tactic best left to high schoolers, the silent treatment is a symptom of emotional manipulation. "The person who's left behind doesn't know what's going on, or whether their partner is even still interested in being with them," says Malec. Going off the grid, whether verbally or by straight up disappearing for a day after a fight, is a way to create emotional instability in the relationship. People in healthy relationships avoid inflicting this kind of pain, even to make a point.

4. Whether you're both truly dependable.

In a healthy relationship: When your partner says they'll do something, you know they'll follow through. In a toxic relationship: You're never exactly sure whether they'll stick to their promises or if it's all lip service. This one is all about feeling emotionally safe. "In healthy relationships, you have a foundation of trust, stability, and security," says Greer. In toxic ones, you usually have to deal with a base level of anxiety because you never know if your partner will show up, either emotionally or physically. It's even worse when they actively do things that you're hoping they'll change, like spilling too many details about your finances to your family. If they're always promising to make a 180 but never actually doing it, you'll wind up feeling like you can't trust them.

5. How many little fights turn into huge blowouts.

In a healthy relationship: You can agree to disagree about the fact that Breaking Bad is the best show ever. In a toxic relationship: A minor difference of opinion often turns into a sprawling argument. "It can be hard for people to recognize that having different opinions doesn't mean anyone's right or wrong," says Malec. This tendency for small issues to spiral out of control is also rooted in the fact that emotional bitterness is a hallmark of toxic relationships. "I frequently see deep levels of resentment and criticism in toxic relationships," says Malec. When combined, they can push people to blow tiny disagreements way out of proportion.

6. Whether you can each handle being on your own.

In a healthy relationship: You regularly have movie dates with friends, and your partner has their own solo activities going on.

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