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How often should you hang out with someone you like?

He told Bravo TV, "It's important to stick to twice a week only so that you have plenty of time away from your new date to give your deepest feelings time to percolate up from your subconscious. "These deep feeling are important because they will help you see any issues or problems with your new love interest."

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Unless you're incredibly lucky and/or have magical powers, finding someone you actually like enough to hang out with (and sleep with) regularly can be pretty hard. So, when you finally realise you actually, kinda, want to see someone again, knowing what to do next can be confusing af.

It's really easy when you're having great sex and a giant laugh, to fall into the routine of spending every waking hour with that person. But how healthy is that, really? Because while you're having a bloody good time, should you really be investing all this time (and probably neglecting your pals/family in the process) on someone you've just met?

While I've always been a firm believer in just doing what feels right, and going with it as long as you're happy, some people reckon that's probably a bad idea... Psychiatrist and author Scott Carroll says there is a rule as to how often you should hang out with someone new you're dating that you'd be wise to follow. He told Bravo TV, "It’s important to stick to twice a week only so that you have plenty of time away from your new date to give your deepest feelings time to percolate up from your subconscious. "These deep feeling are important because they will help you see any issues or problems with your new love interest." I mean, that does make sense if you want to be 'sensible' but what if you just want to go with the flow? He says hanging out with someone 'too much' at the beginning could cause one partner to get over-excited which could in turn, cause the other to freak out and break things off. "You don’t have to see someone daily, but seeing them at least once during the week and another night over the weekend keeps things moving forward," Carroll continues. And, seeing someone less than that can also have a negative effect he reckons."If you only see someone once every couple of weeks, it's almost like starting all over again from the beginning on each date." By all means follow this guy's advice, he is a psychiatrist after all. But with relationships it's often about your gut instinct, and what feels right for you.

[h/t Bravo]

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How can I be a seductive kisser?

First, keep your lips soft and slightly opened, in a gently inviting and receptive way. Don't press them together tightly, but also avoid opening them too wide. Drooling and too much saliva is almost always a turn-off for men and women. On the other hand, some women and men like steamy, sloppy, wet kissing.

Kissing Communication

Probably one of the best tips for kissing out there is communication. Everyone kisses differently, and everyone likes different things. So don’t forget to communicate with your man regarding all things kissing-related. This may be somewhat awkward, especially in the beginning of your relationship. But just like sex, if you don’t talk about it, you’ll never know what he likes, what he doesn’t like, what you are doing right, what you are doing wrong, and how you can improve your kissing technique. And don’t be afraid to tell him what you like and dislike about the art of kissing. No one is the perfect kisser, and he should be receptive to your feedback and suggestions. If he’s not, then maybe it is time to move on and find someone else to kiss! Remember that while these are certainly helpful and useful kissing tips, they are not kissing rules—just guidelines. There really is no such thing as one perfect kiss that every couple must conquer. Each woman, man, and couple will define their perfect kiss differently and that can change and also come in many forms. Never feel like you have to do something you don’t want to, whether it makes you uncomfortable or you just don’t enjoy it. Most importantly, have fun! While there is some effort involved in perfecting your kissing skills, it should mostly be an enjoyable activity for both of you. See this related article: Top Tips for Kissable Lips.

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