Infatuation Rules
Infatuation Rules
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The bottom line? Coan advises every couple to adhere to the 70/30 rule: For the happiest, most harmonious relationship, the pro suggests spending 70% of time together, and 30% apart. That gives each of you enough freedom to explore your own interests while still being rooted and invested in your relationship.
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Read More »If you've ever been friends with one of those seemingly inseparable couples-the one that gets a joint Facebook page, that only uses the pronoun "we," and suddenly can't do anything alone after they get engaged or married-you've probably wondered how much time spent together is really healthy in a relationship. But have you ever wondered about pairs that fall to the other end of the spectrum? While you probably know it's a red flag to need to spend every waking moment with your significant other, how do you know if you're spending too much time apart? We caught up with Trina Dolenz, LCSW, and author of "Retool Your Relationship: Fix the One You're With," and Garett Coan, LCSW, owner of Creative Counseling, to find out how much alone time is healthy. Here, they break it all down, plus share the ideal amount of time to spend together and apart. As with most things in life, it seems the right amount of alone time is a matter of moderation. "On the one extreme is the 'disengaged' couple who do little or nothing together," explains Coan. "They eventually wind up living parallel lives as glorified roommates. Then, there's the enmeshed couple who feel threatened when even momentarily separated. A healthy relationship is characterized by a state of being lying somewhere in the middle." Naturally, this perfect balance is a tough one to achieve. With a variety of ways to stay hyper-connected, it's no surprise Dolenz feels the majority of couples actually struggle more with too little alone time than too much. "Most couples today do not spend enough time alone or with others or other pursuits," she says. The result is a relationship that begins to lose its spark over time. "Being apart brings new experiences and ideas back into the relationship, along with vitality and oxygen," Dolenz explains. When each partner is free to go outside the relationship and spend time doing what makes them feel whole, they bring that recharged energy back home for the better of everyone.
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Read More »Check it out. A good boyfriend respects his girlfriend. He surprises her with flowers. He always asks her how her day was. He's never too jealous (just a little bit, so she knows he values her). He communicates all the time. He's there for her, even when it's inconvenient. He lets her see his silliest self. More items... •
We already know what makes a good girlfriend . . . but what makes a good boyfriend? It's a question for the ages, really. I asked guy friends, random dudes on social platforms, and, ah, last but not least, my boyfriend, in all his great boyfriend glory — what, specifically, makes an amazing male partner. The answers ranged from classic to thoughtful to downright f*cking adorable. Check it out. A good boyfriend respects his girlfriend. He surprises her with flowers. He always asks her how her day was. He's never too jealous (just a little bit, so she knows he values her). He communicates all the time. He's there for her, even when it's inconvenient. He lets her see his silliest self. He keeps the relationship interesting. He knows they're equals. He pushes her out of her comfort zone. He's humble. He watches movies with her (including romance films). He keeps the idea of marriage in mind. He trusts her no matter what. He doesn't try to change her opinions. He carves out time for her. He doesn't worry about being "whipped." He's loyal. He gives her space when she needs it. He remembers her birthday. He tells her she's beautiful. He's careful with his words. He tries his best to get along with her friends. He's affectionate. He listens to her. He puts her needs above his. He helps her grow personally. He's openminded. He treats her like they had just met. He's her friend as much as her boyfriend. He makes her laugh. He loves her wholly.
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