How long should an intimate kiss last?

You've probably never timed it, but maybe you've wished it lasted longer. In John Gottman's relationship research, he was able to find that six seconds is the length of a kiss that can actually create a connection with your partner. In fact, he recommends you have at least one six-second kiss per day.

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Have you ever wondered if your kiss is lasting long enough? You’ve probably never timed it, but maybe you’ve wished it lasted longer. In John Gottman’s relationship research, he was able to find that six seconds is the length of a kiss that can actually create a connection with your partner. In fact, he recommends you have at least one six-second kiss per day. John calls the six-second kiss “a kiss with potential.” An important part of your relationship is building and maintaining a connection with your partner. When we feel really connected, conflict and hard times tend to seem easier to get through. Our connection helps us see our partner in a positive light and focus on the things we appreciate about them instead of things that bother us. When the connection is really strong in your relationship, you are in positive sentiment override. This is a term used to describe couples who see a positive perspective in their relationship due to their strong connection.

Benefits of incorporating the six-second kiss daily:

It helps you feel closer physically.

It’s an invitation for further connection.

It can reduce stress.

It makes connection a priority.

It can lead to intimacy.

It prioritizes your relationship.

It’s a way to have fun together.

It counts as a positive experience together.

It feels good.

A kissing homework assignment

Try out timing your six-second kiss once to get a feel for the length. (You don’t want to time it every time as it will distract you from the connection.) Grab your partner, set a timer on your phone, and get to kissing. You can make it a game by guessing when you’ve hit six seconds or seeing the longest kiss you can do without taking a breath.

A great time to incorporate a six-second kiss into your daily routine is a kiss when parting for the day or when reuniting at the end of the day. Take a few minutes to check in about the day after the kiss as well. Making the six-second kiss a daily habit will be one of the easiest and quickest ways you can boost connection in your relationship. What else can you do for less than one minute a week that will improve your relationship?

The takeaway from this article is simple. Making time for small connections leads to big results. Investing time to connect each day with your partner is worth the time and effort. To get out of the feeling of being roommates, the connection needs to be at the forefront. Strong, healthy couples make time daily to connect and enjoy that intimacy.

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How many first dates end with a kiss?

53 percent 53 percent of first dates end with a kiss. 20 percent end in nudity. And 40 percent end in a second date.

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Finally, a definitive answer to the question plaguing every single person: How many dates until we get to do it? Time Out's new global dating pollclears up this and many other questions. According to responses from more than 11,000 people in 24 cities around the world, you should wait 3.53 dates to do it, "mid-fourth date, after the mains have been cleared and just before the creme brûlée arrives."

Some other revelatory findings:

1 in 10 people consider sex at the end of the first date okay. So if you can't wait, 10 percent of the world is with you. You should stop seeing other people after 6 dates. And go official after 9. 53 percent of first dates end with a kiss. 20 percent end in nudity. And 40 percent end in a second date. 1 in 5 people have dated a friend's ex. 1 in 10 have dated their boss. And 17 percent have dated their best friend. While 60 percent of people say online dating gets them the highest number of dates, 62 percent say their best dates come from people they meet through their friends. It takes only 2-3 minutes on average for people to decide whether they want a second date.