Infatuation Rules
Infatuation Rules
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Anxiety and depression commonly develop as a result of narcissistic abuse. The significant stress you face can trigger persistent feelings of worry, nervousness, and fear, especially when you never know what to expect from their behavior.
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Read More »Narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) is a complex mental health condition that typically involves a grandiose or inflated sense of self and an extreme need for admiration and attention, among other symptoms. People with NPD or narcissistic tendencies sometimes show a pattern of manipulative, controlling behavior that involves both verbal abuse and emotional manipulation. Common types of narcissistic manipulation include: Triangulation . Someone using this tactic will try to pull a third person into your conflict, typically to reinforce their own opinion or position. Someone using this tactic will try to pull a third person into your conflict, typically to reinforce their own opinion or position. Gaslighting. Someone trying to gaslight you tries to get you to doubt your own perspective and reality, often by twisting facts or insisting things you remember didn’t actually happen. Someone trying to gaslight you tries to get you to doubt your own perspective and reality, often by twisting facts or insisting things you remember didn’t actually happen. Hoovering. This tactic involves attempts to reconnect, or pull you back into a toxic or abusive relationship. This tactic involves attempts to reconnect, or pull you back into a toxic or abusive relationship. Silent treatment. This behavior becomes manipulative when someone purposely ignores you to control you or make you feel isolated. This behavior becomes manipulative when someone purposely ignores you to control you or make you feel isolated. Scapegoating. Parents who use narcissistic manipulation may place all the blame on one child they designate as a scapegoat. Parents who use narcissistic manipulation may place all the blame on one child they designate as a scapegoat. Passive aggression. Indirect blame-shifting, sabotage, and sarcasm can all point to covert narcissistic manipulation. These tactics can confuse you, make you question your sense of reality, and damage your self-esteem. Narcissistic victim syndrome is a term that collectively describes the specific and often severe effects of narcissistic manipulation. While this isn’t a recognized mental health condition, many experts acknowledge narcissistic abuse can have a serious, long lasting impact on mental health. Keep in mind that abuse and narcissism aren’t always related. A diagnosis of NPD doesn’t automatically translate to abusive behavior, and many people who engage in abuse don’t have NPD. Regardless, a mental health diagnosis never excuses abusive behavior. People choose to abuse and manipulate others, and it’s possible to live with traits of narcissism, or any personality disorder, without becoming abusive. With that in mind, here are 12 signs that might suggest you’ve experienced narcissistic abuse. They seem so perfect — at first Narcissistic abuse tends to follow a clear pattern, though this pattern might look a little different depending on the type of relationship. Research from 2019 suggests that in a romantic relationship, this abuse typically begins slowly after you’ve fallen hard and fast. It’s no wonder you fell for them. During the love-bombing phase, they seemed loving, kind, and generous. They made you feel special and adored with gushy compliments, affectionate displays, and expensive gifts. This early stage might have felt so intense and overwhelming you never stopped to consider whether they might be too fantastic. Then slowly, negging or other manipulative tactics began to replace the gifts and declarations of love. Narcissistic parents might also offer love, adoration, praise, and financial support until you do something to displease them and lose their favor. Then they, too, often turn to tactics like negging, silent treatment, and gaslighting. People doubt the abuse took place Narcissistic manipulation and abuse are often subtle. In public, these behaviors might be so well disguised that others hear or see the same behaviors and fail to recognize them as abuse. You might not even fully understand what’s happening. You only know you feel confused, upset, or even guilty for your “mistakes.” A narcissistic parent might gently say, “Are you sure you want to eat dessert?” Or they might turn a broken dish into a joke at your expense: “You’re so clumsy. You just can’t help yourself, can you?” They laugh with everyone in the room while patting your shoulder to make the insult seem well-intentioned. You would hope friends and loved ones believe you. But, unfortunately, this doesn’t always happen. Your loved ones might not doubt your belief you were abused, but they might question your perception of events or assure you, “You must have misunderstood them. They’d never hurt you intentionally.” This doubt can be doubly harmful. Not only does it dismantle your faith in your loved ones, but it can also lead you to wonder whether the abuse took place after all. Maybe you did read too much into their words or just imagined that look on their face. They’ve started a smear campaign People with narcissistic traits often need to maintain their image of perfection in order to keep earning admiration from others. To do this, they may try making you look bad. Once you begin pointing out problems or questioning their behavior, they might lash out by: openly directing their rage toward you with insults and threats
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Read More »involving others in criticizing you By telling stories to your loved ones that twist the facts about your “harmful” or “unstable” behavior, the narcissist tries to discredit you. Even worse, when you react angrily (who wouldn’t?), they can use your response to back up their lies. People with narcissism often have a knack for charming others. That persona they showed you in the beginning? Everyone else sees that still. They can often win support from your loved ones (who haven’t seen through the facade) by insisting they only have your best interests at heart. Then, when you try explaining the abuse, your loved ones might side with them. You feel isolated If your loved ones don’t understand, you’ll likely feel pretty alone — which only increases your vulnerability to further narcissistic manipulation. The person abusing you may pull you back in with kindness, even apologies, or by pretending the abuse never happened. “Hoovering,” as it’s often called, tends to work better when you lack support. You’re more likely to doubt your perceptions of the abuse when you can’t talk with anyone about it. If your loved ones reach out to say you’ve made a mistake and encourage you to give the abusive partner another chance, you might end up doing so simply to regain your closeness with family and friends. You freeze up People respond to abuse and other trauma in different ways. You might attempt to confront the abusive person (fight) or escape the situation (flight). If these methods don’t work or you feel unable to use them, you might respond by freezing or fawning. The freeze response usually happens when you feel helpless. It often involves dissociation since emotionally distancing yourself from the abuse can help decrease its intensity, effectively numbing some of the pain and distress you experience. Freezing can have some benefits in certain situations, but it doesn’t help much when you can escape from danger. Yet if you believe there’s no way out of the relationship, you might remain in it — and perhaps even respond by fawning, or working to keep your partner happy. You have trouble making decisions A pattern of devaluation and criticism can leave you with very little self-esteem and confidence. Narcissistic manipulation often involves frequent implications that you make bad decisions and can’t do anything right. An abusive partner may call you stupid or ignorant outright, often with a falsely affectionate tone: “Honey, you’re so dumb. How would you manage without my help?” Over time, you might start absorbing these insults and attaching them to your self-perception, constantly second-guessing yourself as a result. Gaslighting tactics can also make you doubt your decision-making abilities. (Here’s how to respond.) If someone manipulates you into believing you imagined things that actually took place, you might continue doubting your perception of events. This uncertainty can affect your ability to make decisions well into the future. You always feel like you’ve done something wrong A key characteristic of narcissism is difficulty taking responsibility for any negative actions or harmful behavior. Abusive partners typically find some way to cast blame on you instead. They might accomplish this through deceit, often by: insisting they said something you have no recollection of getting so angry you end up soothing them by apologizing and agreeing you were wrong. Say you suspect they’ve cheated on you. You explain the concerning behaviors you’ve noticed and ask if something’s going on. A partner using narcissistic manipulation might respond with extreme anger. They may respond with accusations of their own and redirect blame, saying things that are intended to hurt and belittle you. These barrages of rage can leave you feeling helpless and dependent, grateful they’re willing to remain with someone who makes so many mistakes. Even after leaving the relationship, you might carry forward the belief you can’t do anything right. When things go wrong in other areas of life, you might start to blame yourself for causing those problems. You have unexplained physical symptoms Abuse can trigger anxious and nervous feelings that sometimes lead to physical symptoms. You might notice: appetite changes
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