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How do you tell if she wants you to make a move?

Here are 27 subtle signs that tell you SHE WANTS YOU to make a move. She's always around you. ... You can feel her staring at you. ... She never runs out of things to say. ... She “accidentally” touches you a lot. ... She's been checking your reactions. ... She gets nervous when you get too close. ... She replies fast… ... She's turned into your “type” More items...

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You’ve always been a little shy with women.

You’d rather not make a move unless you’re 100% sure she likes you, too…lest you make a fool of yourself! But the problem with this is that some women are just impossible to read.

Well, we’re here to help.

In this article, we listed down the subtle signs that a woman clearly likes you.

How to Know if A Girl Wants You to Make a Move

If you spot at least half the signs on this list, chances are that she’s been waiting (and getting very impatient) for you to make your move. Here are 27 subtle signs that tell you SHE WANTS YOU to make a move.

1. She’s always around you

One of the signs she wants you badly is that she’s somehow always there. And not only that, she also finds a way, somehow, to be near you. You might be relaxing at your favorite bar when she walks into the room. Before you know it, she’s sitting right next to you. It wouldn’t be that big of a deal were it not for the fact she’s suspiciously consistent with it. If you were to get a penny every time she sits down within a couple of meters of you, you would be a rich man.

2. You can feel her staring at you

Every now and then you get this strange feeling that someone’s looking at you. So you try to scan the room… and find yourself staring straight into her eyes. She might smile and then look away or she might keep staring anyway, and you’re not sure if she’s admiring your getup or trying to undress you with her eyes. It’s a sure sign either way that she’s interested in you. It’s quite unlikely that she’d keep staring at you like this if she isn’t.

3. She never runs out of things to say

There’s never a dull moment between the two of you, no matter if you’re Facetiming, texting or in person. You can chat for hours on end and almost never run out of things to talk about. Even topics as mundane as the weather are somehow engaging. Drop a comment about the overcast skies, and she’d tell you about how those same skies had once inspired her to write a poem. Someone who’s interested will try anything to keep the conversation going…and if she’s doing this to you, you’re not just imagining things. She’s clearly interested.

4. She “accidentally” touches you a lot

A girl who likes you would find it hard not to get physical with you, even if it’s just your hands brushing together every now and then. She might slap your arm when you make her laugh, or her fingers might linger a little longer than need be when she’s handing you something. She’s trying to give you signals to go ahead and touch her, too. Touch is a clear sign a married woman wants you to make a move. She knows that she’s “off the market”, so she uses more obvious cues such as these to tell you that she’s into you.

5. She’s been checking your reactions

She might say something a bit “off”, interesting, or controversial to bait a response from you, and then pays close attention to the way you react. She would pay attention to the way you word your response, the tone of your voice, and even your posture. She’s testing you and observing you, and it’s not just so that she can keep the conversation interesting. It’s also so that you can understand one another better and, in doing so, grow closer.

6. She gets nervous when you get too close

She might be bold when you’re at a distance—bold enough to undress you with her stare—but the moment you walk closer or pay her close attention she gets shy all of a sudden. She would begin to fumble and fidget, maybe even examine the way she looks every now and then. If she’s especially nervous, she might even pretend she’s doing something else. And when you talk to her, it’s either that she gets tongue-tied… or she says too much at once. She acts like this precisely because she’s interested in you.

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7. She replies fast…way too fast!

She might not be the kind to shoot you a message first, but reach out to her and she replies almost instantly every time. You can’t even remember the last time she left you unread! It doesn’t matter if you’re telling her about an emergency or you’re just sending a silly meme. She responds almost immediately! Some people are just naturally fast responders, so it’s possible that she’s just this way. Except when you talk to her friends about it, they tell you that’s not really her thing. Being always available like this is one of the signs she wants you to make a move over text.

8. She’s turned into your “type”

You’ve noticed her changing little by little as the days went by. And the change isn’t random, either. Rather, as you got to know one another better, the more she changed into your “type.” For example, perhaps you were talking about fashion when you let it slip that ladies who are into goth fashion are your type. Now she starts showing up wearing black dresses, with black lipstick and thick eyeliners… when she used to wear soft pinks! It’s like you had convinced her to pick up that exact same aesthetic you like, somehow. And, well, the reason is most likely because she is really into you.

9. She gives you cute stuff and says it’s “nothing”

Some girls find it hard NOT to give gifts to someone they like. But of course, they’ll try to pass it off as casually as possible so you won’t suspect they’re into you.

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Not only is she trying to win your heart, she’s also trying to gauge your interest in her. If you act like you don’t care so much about her gifts, she might take it as a sign you’re not interested in her. But if you treasure even the smallest gifts from her, she’d take it as a sign that you like her, too.

10. She finds a way to stand out

When you’re with other people, she tells jokes, shares stories, and even showcases her dance moves or singing chops when others are too shy to hit the dance floor or jam out to their favorite karaoke.

She’s anything but a wallflower, and it’s hard not to notice her.

What’s interesting is that your friends tell you that she calmed down and became her usual self when you left.

Well, that’s because she’s trying to impress you, of course!

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11. She doesn’t mind helping you…like at all!

You’re having a hard time at something—maybe you’re rushing to finish a presentation or you can’t find a good restaurant to take your parents to. When you tell her about this, she stops whatever it is she’s doing and helps you. You tell her she doesn’t have to but she insists. In fact, you can see that she’s actually happy doing it for you.

12. She asks you for advice (even when she doesn’t need it)

She turns to you and asks for your input or advice for all sorts of things, even things that you’re sure she doesn’t need help with. This is a sure sign that she appreciates the way you think at the very least… and oftentimes her appreciation goes beyond that. In other words, it’s obvious that she’s just using it as an excuse to talk to you.

13. She finds a way to tell you she’s single

Another subtle sign she wants you to make a move on her is when she lets you know that she’s single without being too obvious about it. Perhaps you talk about a famous celebrity who just broke up and she says “Ugh, that’s why I’m not dating anyone at the moment. I want to take things slow.” Or perhaps it’s almost Valentine’s Day and she would jokingly say “I can’t wait to spend V-day with my cats!” She’s doing this to make you aware that in case you like her, she’s very much available!

14. She’s curious if you’re single

So another reason she tells you she’s single is so that you’ll share your dating status in return. But if you didn’t tell her anything, she might be a little direct. She can do this by saying “Hey, I found a really good restaurant nearby. You can take your dates there and they’ll be impressed!” Or “ Hey, go home. You don’t want your gf to be mad at you”, when you never told her you have one. Someone who has no interest in you will never pry if you’re single or in a relationship. If you notice her making too many attempts to know your relationship status, then it’s likely that she’s interested in you.

15. She tells you about her place

She wants you to visit her place but thinks that saying “come over to my place” is way too forward, so she tries to make her place sound interesting. Perhaps she knows that you’re both into vinyl records so she tells you about her vinyl collection hoping you’d want to check it out. Women tend to be careful about bringing people over to their place, so the fact that she wants you to come over—even indirectly—means she likes you.

16. She wants to visit your place

If you’re the one with the vinyl collection, she’d say “Hey, can I visit your place and check out your records?” Or if you have nothing much in common, she’d make any excuse just to be at your place. She might say “Hey, I need help with something. Can I drop by?”, or “Hey, this is really embarrassing, but I lost my house keys and my roommate left. Can I spend the night on your couch?”

She wants to get closer, that’s why.

17. She overemphasizes the things you have in common

You found out that you both love the same band and TV show, and she freaks out about it. She might say she’s happy to see someone with the same tastes as her, but she’s almost too happy about it. And when you find out that you both hate it when people say “awesome”, she looks at you everytime someone says that word and quirks her brow. If she’s not into you yet, she will be. This is a sign that she truly likes you a lot.

18. She tries to make you a bit jealous

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Because of this, she gets a little desperate by making you jealous.

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19. She gets sweet when she’s drunk

She acts almost like she’s your girlfriend when she’s drunk. She might have even kissed you once… and then said she didn’t remember it after she sobered up. Alcohol is known to make us lose our inhibitions, and how she acted when she was drunk is how she’s always wanted to act. It’s also the perfect excuse! She might even just be pretending that she’s drunk so that she can get away with acting like that.

20. She plays the role of “damsel in distress”

She’s far from weak—in fact you know she’s one of the toughest girls around—and yet she has no qualms about needing help from you—and you specifically—every now and then. She might act like she’s in the middle of a crisis and needs a shoulder to cry on or that she’s too tired to carry her things, hoping that you’d step in and rescue her from her misery. Many women have this notion that guys want to feel needed, so she does this to make you want to be around her.

21. She likes to talk about sex

She is far from prude—if anything, she’s more than happy to talk about sex with you candidly and openly. She might ask for sex advice, tease you, tell you about the things that turn her on, and even share her sexual fantasies with you. You can’t help but wonder if she’s trying to turn you into a blushing mess every time. And perhaps that’s not too far off the mark. Talking about these things is a form of foreplay, and she’s probably daring you to make your move.

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22. She goes solo

She does things with friends and colleagues almost all of the time. But when you’re around, she somehow finds a way to break away from them and be alone. She eats alone when she knows you’re at the cafeteria. She works overtime when she knows you’re at the office. She does this so she becomes more approachable. She probably thinks you’re too shy to go near her if she’s always with a bunch of people.

23. You can tell she’s trying to look hot for you

You know it when a girl is simply taking care of herself and when she actually wants to get praises for her looks.

Well, she’s clearly doing the latter.

From her shade of lipstick to the smell of her perfume, everything about her is so sexy that it’s impossible for you not to notice her. You know she’s putting in the effort, and you know it’s for you because she does the other things in this list.

24. She notices things about you that others don’t

Most people won’t even notice that you adjust your glasses when you’re nervous, or that you always log in to your social media every 7:20 PM. But she somehow has noticed these small details… and more! The reason for this is because she has been paying close attention to your habits. Because of this she understands you in a way that’s on another level from everyone else.

25. She asks if you find her dateable

“Am I dateable?” she asks. “Men like me but they don’t pursue me. I wonder why.”

This right here isn’t a trick to win your heart.

She’s actually just curious what you think of her. She’s probably tired of waiting and wants to know for sure how you see her—if you see her as a friend or something more. It’s also one way for her to tell you that yes, she’s so, so tired of waiting for you to make a move!

26. She has a sharp memory…but only if it’s about you

You would be talking about the best restaurants in town when she recommends a local Mexican restaurant, telling you they serve your favorite kind of soft-shell tacos. But you don’t remember telling her that you loved soft-shelled tacos. Ask her about it, and she says you told her about it a whole year ago. It’s not this way with other people though. She might need frequent reminders to remember when she needs to pick up her friend at the airport, for example. The reason why she remembers details that involve you so much is because she’s interested in you.

27. You can sense she’s waiting for you to make a move

Somehow you just feel like she’s waiting for you to make your move. You can’t say exactly why either…you just feel it. Strongly. Sometimes our subconscious can pick up on so many subtle signs that we ignore simply because they don’t seem to mean much.

But sometimes many small things can come together to make something big.

If you have a very strong feeling that she likes you, she probably does.

Last Words

You might wonder why she simply isn’t making the first move, and is simply trying to show you all these signs. She likes you after all, doesn’t she?

Well, it’s quite likely that she’s also holding back for the same reasons as you. She might be afraid of being rejected, and wants to make sure you’re also 100% into her.

Sooner or later, someone will have to make the first move, and it might as well be you. After all, what sort of gentleman leaves a lady waiting?

Onto you, what’s your number 1 key takeaway?

Looking forward to seeing you in there.

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