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How do you know if you're too clingy?

Am I Clingy? 5 Ways to Know if You're Too Needy You Text Your Partner Constantly—Or Think About Texting Constantly. ... You Fabricate New Interests to Please or Spend More Time with Your Partner. ... You Find Yourself Showing Up in Places Where Your Partner Might Be. ... You're Always Close By. ... You Obsess Over Their Social Media.

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When in a relationship, you might wonder, “Am I too clingy?” “Clingy” doesn’t have an exact definition. A feeling of overattachment to a partner may occur from the beginning of the relationship. Sometimes a person who is so eager or excited about the relationship will dive in quickly. You might ask yourself if you’re giving the relationship a chance to grow organically. Both men and women may become over-attached in a relationship, but there are ways to overcome the feeling that you need to cling to a partner for a healthy relationship to grow.

Possible Signs of Being Over-Attached:

1. You Text Your Partner Constantly—Or Think About Texting Constantly

Clinginess Could Be A Sign of Something Deeper Speak With A Board-Certified Therapist Online. You may find yourself texting your partner continuously. You might also worry about texting and what to text. You might find yourself in the position of asking your friends if you should send a certain message or trying to force yourself to resist sending the infamous double text. You might even ask your friends if they think you’re “clingy.” Sometimes, you might find you’re unable to resist the temptation to text. Your apprehension about texting or not texting may rise. If the urge to stay in near-constant contact gets the best of you, you may act on it, despite knowing that your partner might not be available. Twenty minutes later, you might find yourself six messages deep with no response and a knot in your stomach wondering why they aren’t replying. The results you will get from this behavior may vary. Sometimes, the texts may represent more than just words to the person receiving them. Your partner might perceive constant or numerous texts as a sign that you want a higher level of involvement or commitment than they feel comfortable with right now. Or they may just not have the time for texts and the communication that you’re craving. A good strategy may be not to overthink over-analyze your texts. You can try viewing them just as a way to communicate what you need to say, not a way to stay in near-constant contact or as a gauge of the health of your relationship or the other person’s interest in you. As you get a better feel for how the relationship is developing and what the other person’s time commitments and attitudes to their phone are (some people put their phone aside and check it a lot less than others), you might have a better sense of how much texting seems right for both of you. Suppose you’ve developed a habit in relationships of not wanting periods to pass between speaking or texting with your partner. In that case, you may find it challenging to let go of constantly thinking of being in touch with them. Trying to do other activities can help distract you from overthinking this. You might consider going out with your friends, watching your favorite TV show, catching up with work or things you need to do at home, working out, or doing a new DIY project. The urge to always be in contact with your partner may stem from insecurity. If you can remind yourself that it is okay to be apart and it’s healthy for you to do your own thing, you may find that a strong sense of independence begins to grow, and your worries may decrease. 2. You Fabricate New Interests to Please or Spend More Time with Your Partner

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One sign of being over-attached is pretending to be interested in something that you don’t care about or don’t even like. You may try to compromise on what you do and don’t enjoy spending as much time with your partner as possible. A problem with this approach is that if you aren’t genuine, it can be hard for your partner to know the true you. One of the best things you can do when you are in a new relationship—and most every circumstance—is to be yourself. It is normal and healthy for partners to have different interests. It is also normal and healthy for partners to want to try to give interests. If your partner genuinely wants to introduce you to their interests or if you have a desire to learn more about their interests to get to know them better, making an effort to do so can be an open-minded gesture. You might find that you like the interest, or you might find it’s not right for you, and either can be okay. A relationship can be solid even when partners have separate interests and spend time apart from each other pursuing them. Pursuing an interest so that you can keep tabs on each other may not be the best behavior for either you as an individual or both of you as a couple. If you find yourself becoming interested in something new because of your partner, that can be great. Being with someone is meant to enrich your life. But in a balanced relationship, you shouldn’t need to fake given interests. Be yourself, and your genuineness will show through. Your relationship may blossom as a result. Being your authentic self can lead to happiness and satisfaction. 3. You Find Yourself Showing Up in Places Where Your Partner Might Be Overattachment can be powerful. You may begin to crave your partner’s presence, which might motivate you to do some things or go to places that aren’t typical for you. For example, you might show up at a person’s place of work, hoping you can steal a minute of conversation. If you know other places that they frequent, you might show up at those places, too, hoping for a “serendipitous” meeting. Your partner may be flattered or genuinely happy to see you, but, on the other hand, this kind of behavior may feel to your partners like an overstepping of boundaries or a lack of trust. A more authentic way to handle wanting to see your partner is to let them know that you’d like to get together. The two of you might find a mutually convenient time to go on a date or hang out and talk. Open, honest communication may help you reach your relationship goals. And relationship experts also offer tips for how to keep communication effective by not “over-communicating.”

4. You’re Always Close By

When you are with your partner, you might feel that you often have a hand on them. This could be a completely healthy expression of attraction that is mutually agreed upon by both of you. On the other hand, if it’s coming from a place of fear of losing him, insecurity, anxiety about the relationship, or attention-getting, it may not be the best way to forge a healthy relationship. Suppose you’re displaying signs of insecurity resulting from childhood or other times in your past or because a previous relationship has left you vulnerable. In that case, you can try to address those issues. You might let your partner know that you feel insecure, but also try to understand that getting them to fill a void or heal past hurts is not the partner’s responsibility.

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5. You Obsess Over Their Social Media

Clinginess Could Be A Sign of Something Deeper Speak With A Board-Certified Therapist Online. It’s the digital age, and it seems like everyone has social media accounts. If you use your partner’s social media posts to monitor their behavior, you might not have had an ideal attachment. Dwelling on posts or pictures on their page can be unproductive. Social media can elicit a lot of feelings. You might worry about what your partner is doing, who they’re in pictures with, or why you aren’t with them. Remember that social media isn’t real life; it’s a virtual platform. If you have questions about what your partner posts, you can try respectfully asking him. Research shows that social media use does lead to FOMO—and this FOMO can apply to relationships, too. There are good practices for using social media wisely. You might try limiting your time on social media and making efforts to live in the moment. So, instead of dwelling on posts, you can try to appreciate the time you have now. Try ways to live your real-life and to detach from the virtual one.

When To Get Help

If you want to be less attached and more dependent but fear or feel you can’t, therapy may help. A licensed counselor or therapist with ReGain can help you learn to address these concerns so that you can live the life you’d like to live and build healthy relationships. Regain is user-friendly and convenient. You can choose to attend therapy sessions alone, or you can include your partner in the process. Sessions can be performed anywhere with a computer or smartphone and an internet connection, making it a perfect option for those with a busy schedule. You may have the desire to foster a happy and healthy relationship. With the right tools, you may find a path to the finish line.

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