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How do you know if you're being seduced?

Here are five signs you're the victim of seduction. He plays the game of push and pull. Poeticizing his Presence. He uses games to disarm you. He keeps you in suspense. He appeals to your subconscious.

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Many of us have or will experience him, the serial seducer. One minute you have luke-warm take it or leave it feelings for the guy, the next you’re restraining yourself from handing over the panties on a pedestal. How did we so carelessly let our guard down for the guy we were weary about from day one and become so crazy in lust?

Here are five signs you’re the victim of seduction.

He plays the game of push and pull

He pushes you to the brink of wanting him and then pulls away. An example of this would be flirting with you relentlessly then all of a sudden making it seem as if you said something to turn him off or did something to lose his interest and then pulling away from you. Another example would be acting completely interested in you then out of no where disappearing. They do this subtlety to make you feel as if you did something wrong, to have you further under their spell spending hours with your girlfriends recounting your last encounter and wondering what you did to push them away. In reality it was nothing you did at all. Instead it was a calculated move to keep him on your mind. To make you want to pull him back at all cost, to make you become the pursuer. Perhaps he is constantly in pursuit of you, which you find flattering of course then out of no where he becomes cold. Not cold enough that you no longer want to deal with him, but enough to have you wondering what has gotten into him? Why isn’t he being as flirtatious, paying as much attention to you as before? After spending hours, days, possibly weeks trying to figure out what you did wrong, you decide it’s time to get him back on your heels. You are dead set on reversing the roles and getting him to pursue you again, which usually means you become more aggressive, more sexual perhaps than you were previously, all in the name of getting the pursuer back on track. You’ve fallen right where he wants you girl, and the ball is back in his court.

Poeticizing his Presence

“The words where have you been sound much sweeter than why have you come.” He uses his absence to control you, to keep you guessing, keep you wondering. His elusiveness is a weapon you are defenseless towards. The more you see someone the greater chance of you seeing flaws in them, or even red flags of their true character. So he keeps a distance to disarm you at bay. He knows just when to disappear and he knows the exact moment when to come back. Have you ever noticed just when you start talking to a new guy, an ex that you were madly in love with randomly starts showing you attention and before you know it you are questioning whether or not they are truly the man for you. Seducers have a way of using their absence to confuse and heighten your feelings for them. After being oversaturated with attention and affection their absence again makes you wonder where have they been and if possibly you did something wrong or someone else has caught their attention. Ego is a powerful thing. No one wants to feel like we’re being left for someone prettier, smarter, more interesting than us, so when they return, and they always return, we go out of our way, even acting out of character at times to try to get them to never leave again, often at the risk of our own morals and conscious.

He uses games to disarm you

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It can be pretty obvious when a non seducer is trying to bed you. They are uncreative, sex is always the topic and you are constantly feeling pressured to sleep with them. But a real seducer is patient. They can disarm you in the most subtlest of ways. I once had a guy I dated admit to me he would use lighthearted activities to make me more comfortable with him to eventually try to have sex with me. We would play video games and do adventurous activities together without there ever being a mention of sex. In my head I thought, wow he’s not even trying to initiate sex while secretly he was using games and child like activities to disarm me and get my mind furthest away from sex as possible so when he did finally make his move I would’t feel like that was all he wanted from me.This form of seduction is extremely deceptive and sometimes tough to decipher because of course not all guys are like this and some really do want to get to know you and enjoy doing these activities with you. I would say use your best judgement if despite your fun and games there is always some underlining sexual tension or joking with him, it’s a big possibility he is using fun and games to disarm you, especially if it’s paired with something else on this list.

He keeps you in suspense

Predictable is the last word anyone would ever use to describe him. You can’t guess his moods from one minute to the next, you can’t finish his sentences and his words and actions are just as unpredictable. He is literally all over the place. You hate his crazy outbursts, despise that you don’t know his true feelings for you and for some reason you can’t get him out of your head. He uses his unpredictability as to never become boring to you. He wants to be the guy you are constantly trying to figure out. After all what is the fun of someone whose every move you can guess? He’ll allow you to feel like you are on the brink of figuring him out, right on the cusp of truly knowing him, then he’ll pull some stunt that you never saw coming. He enjoys stealing your energy in this way and making you constantly try to piece the puzzle together to figure him out. One minute he is telling you he loves you, the next he’s ignoring you, or worse telling you stories about another woman. He’s not oblivious to how this makes you feel. In fact as non-chalant as you may pretend to act, he knows how much he gets to you and takes pleasure in getting under your skin. He’s a basket case of seductive brilliance and you are wrapped around his crazy little finger.

He appeals to your subconscious

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He uses seductive trickery to get into your head all–the–time. Perhaps you’ll be walking past an Italian restaurant and he’ll tell you how his father proposed to his mom in a restaurant like that and then go into detail of how he would propose one day, when the time is right. Or maybe he sends you screenshots of faraway romantic getaways he would want to someday visit, maybe reposts sentimental love quotes online with status like, “someday”, or “I can’t wait to have this.” When you know along with the other women he is slowly seducing he could have that with any woman of his choosing. The truth is, he doesn’t want that, not now anyway. He wants to continue being a player while appealing to your subconscious making you picture tropical vacations and white picket fences. You know it’s all talk when the actions are not behind it. It’s simply talk. One day he is butterflies and roses then next he’s a douche bag talking trash. Do yourself a favor sis, don’t fall into the clever trap of the seducer, he is constantly evolving and learning new tricks to get in anyway he can fit in. Keep your eyes open, heart as well as legs closed to the clever seducer, dressed in a good man’s clothing. Ashley Renee is a soul food enthusiast, sometimes vegetarian, spoken word poet, who doesn’t trust boxed macaroni or cats. keep up with her @ashleyreneepoet on twitter & instagram also check out her website.

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