Infatuation Rules
Infatuation Rules
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Here are seven signs your partner may be attracted to someone else — but hasn't acted on it, according to experts. They've Started Talking About Someone Else A Lot. ... They Seem A Bit Emotionally Detached. ... Their Routine Has Changed. ... They're Giving You Less Romantic Attention. ... They're Fixated On a Friend's Relationship. More items... •
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Read More »Over the course of a relationship, it's perfectly natural for one or more of you to be attracted to someone else. There is, however, a line between an innocent crush and cheating, however the two of you define the term. If your partner may be attracted to someone else, paying attention to the signs and having open conversations can help. First, it's important to understand the nuances of being attracted to others while in a relationship. Most likely, no one can completely turn off their natural attraction to others, even if they're totally in love and committed. It's the scale of these attractions that is significant, however. "It's normal for someone to find others attractive, but the intensity of the attraction is what matters," David Bennett, certified counselor and relationship expert, tells Bustle. Crushing on a celebrity, for example, is a completely different ballpark than being attracted to a coworker you interact with every day. It’s also important to remember that as unpleasant dealing with these concerns may be, it’s not at all uncommon. One study looking at infidelity in young adults aged 18-26 found that just 16.6% percent owned up to sexual infidelity in their current relationship. However, when the criteria changed to include things like romantic interest or online-based activity as well, that number increased to 78.6%. But even a real life attraction doesn't have to be that big of a deal, however. "Having your partner be attracted to someone else doesn't feel good, but it can be good for your relationship if handled properly," licensed therapist Dr. Jameson Mercier, tells Bustle. "See it as an opportunity to talk with your partner about your relationship. People change over time and so do their needs and desires. Remember also, that not all attractions lead to romantic encounters." The fact that this attraction is happening doesn't necessarily indicate serious problems in your relationship — but it could be an opportunity to communicate more. Finally, it’s especially important to recognize any personal insecurities that could be affecting how you see the situation. "If your ex partner cheated on you and that was the reason why you broke up, you may have developed trust issues around infidelity and cheating, which will now need to be talked about in your current dating life and relationships," licensed marriage and family therapist Katie Ziskind, previously told Bustle. Here are seven signs your partner may be attracted to someone else — but hasn't acted on it, according to experts. 1 They've Started Talking About Someone Else A Lot Westend61/Westend61/Getty Images If your partner is attracted to someone else, but hasn't acted on it, they may be less worried about hiding how much they talk about the person they've been crushing on. "They might be thinking of this other person so much, that they cannot help talking about [them] in front of you," relationship therapist and dating coach Irina Baechle, LCSW, tells Bustle. Hearing them talk glowingly about this person may be frustrating, but it could be a good indicator that they have less to hide. If it begins to bother you, ask them about it. 2 They Seem A Bit Emotionally Detached Shutterstock Your partner may be feeling conflicted and confused if they've developed feelings of attraction to someone else. In some cases, this can come across if they exhibit cold behavior towards you. "[It's a sign if] your once loving partner seems distant and cold," Baechle says. This change in behavior is a clear sign that it's time to start communicating a bit more openly in your relationship.
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Read More »3 Their Routine Has Changed Johner Images/Johner Images Royalty-Free/Getty Images A change in routine may indicate that your partner's got some internal conflict going on. If you've noticed new habits in your partner, alongside other signs, it may be an indicator of a crush. "In working with couples, the biggest indication of attraction to someone else is a change in behavior [or] routine," Dr. Mercier says. If you've noticed that they're spending more time at work, developing new interests, or withdrawing from regular activities as a couple, it's possible they're dealing with an outside attraction. Asking your partner about how they're feeling may help, and can reveal if things have gone further than an innocent crush. 4 They're Giving You Less Romantic Attention skynesher/E+/Getty Images A partner withdrawing romantic attention could happen for a variety of reasons — one of these reasons is being attracted to someone else. "Typically people only have so much romantic energy in them, so if you notice your partner is giving you less romantic attention, and seems to be directing their time and energy to another person or group of people (like spending a lot more time at work social events, for example), I would start to wonder if they are crushing on someone else," Bennett says. If your partner is giving you less attention, asking them about it or seeing a couples therapist might help. 5 They're Fixated On a Friend’s Relationship FG Trade/E+/Getty Images While it's pretty common to have opinions on your friends' partners, there is a line between interest and fixation. If your partner is paying particular attention to a friend's relationship, that may be a sign. "If your partner seems very jealous and bothered by the romantic relationships a friend or acquaintance is in, they may be attracted to that person," Bennett says. "Usually it will take the form of comments about how that person can do so much better, and the intensity of the jealousy will go beyond simple concern for that person's well-being." If you've noticed your partner doing this, it may be worth it to ask them a bit more about why they're feeling this way. 6 They're Paying A Lot Of Attention To Someone's Social Media Peter Cade/Photodisc/Getty Images While it's important to have social media boundaries in your relationship, it's not always very hard to notice when your partner's online habits have changed. If they have begun paying lots of attention to a particular person's page, that may be a signs there is someone else they’re into. "People tend to strongly pay attention to someone they are attracted to," Bennett says. "If your partner seems to always stalk a particular person on social media (including liking a lot of their statuses) I would assume some level of attraction, especially if that other person is attractive [or] your partner's usual 'type.'" "People use social media to cheat when they are unhappy with their lives and/or their relationships," Theresa Herring, LMFT, a Chicago-area couples therapist, previously told Bustle. "It usually [starts when] a [...] person is giving them the validation that they've been seeking. They rediscover a lost part of themselves, feel like someone appreciates them for who they are, and it's off to the races." Bringing this issue up may be difficult, but if it's bothering you, it's worth getting off your chest. 7 They're Sharing With You Less LEREXIS/Moment/Getty Images If your partner has stopped sharing their everyday thoughts and feelings with you, that's likely a sign that something in the relationship needs to be addressed. One potential cause of this issue is outside attraction — even if it hasn't been acted on. "[It's a sign if] your partner has stopped talking to you about both trivial and important things," Baechle says. "Maybe they are sharing the details of their day or their life with someone else." Asking them more about their life, or expressing how the lack of conversation makes you feel, may help close some of the distance between the two of you. Having a partner that is attracted to someone else, even if they don't act on it, can be quite difficult. Paying attention to the signs of attraction is very important, but so is being able to express your feelings about the situation. It's quite possible that with some open communication, the problems between the two of you can be remedied before they become too serious. Studies: Gibson, K. A.V., Thompson, A. E., & O'SulIivan, L. F. (2016). Love thy neighbour: Personality traits, relationship quality, and attraction to others as predictors of infidelity among young adults. Canadian Journal of Human Sexuality, 25(3), 186–198. https://doi.org/10.3138/cjhs.253-A2 Sources: David Bennett, certified counselor Dr. Jameson Mercier, licensed clinical social worker Katie Ziskind, licensed marriage and family therapist Irina Baechle, licensed clinical social worker
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