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How do you know he's not coming back?

He doesn't want to hang out But if he never wants to hang out with you, it's a good sign he's not coming back. If he doesn't want to spend any time with you, his interests likely lie elsewhere and he's moving on from you. He's moving on from the relationship you had and never looking back.

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We sometimes include products we think are useful for our readers. If you buy through links on this page, we may earn a small commission. Read our affiliate disclosure. Going through a breakup is never a simple or easy process. Whether you’re the one who got dumped or you’re the one who initiated the split, it’s going to involve pain. And as you adapt to this huge life change, you may wish things were different.

You may even want your ex back.

If you do, the question becomes: does he want you back too?

While many couples get back together after a breakup — and the relationship goes from strength to strength — unfortunately, sometimes a break up is permanent. In this article, I’m going to tell you the 19 clear cut clear signs that he will never come back. Then I’ll share 5 main signs that he wants to get back together. By the end, you’ll know whether getting back with your ex is a live possibility, or whether it’s time to move on and find someone new.

We have a lot to get through!

1. He suggests you move on

The idea of moving on might seem like the last thing you want to do after splitting from your ex. Especially if you hope to get back with him. Feeling like that is okay; you might not be ready to move on.

It takes time, have patience with yourself.

But if he’s suggesting that you move on from him and try to see other people, he’s trying to tell you that he’s never coming back. It may be a hard pill to swallow or the last thing you want him to say, but it’s one of the biggest signs he won’t be back.

2. He won’t make eye contact

It may not be the first thing you think of when trying to figure out if he wants you back or not, but it’s a pretty good tell. If he’s avoiding eye contact with you, he’s avoiding a very personal connection, one that you used to share a lot of. He maybe isn’t being truthful when spending time with you. He’s afraid to tell you how he truly feels, or reveal it to you when he looks into your eyes. It’s a pretty clear sign that maybe he doesn’t want you back.

3. Get advice specific to your situation

While this article explores the main signs your ex isn’t coming back, it can be helpful to speak to a relationship coach about your situation. With a professional relationship coach, you can get advice specific to your life and your experiences… Relationship Hero is a site where highly trained relationship coaches help people through complicated and difficult love situations, like getting an ex back. They’re a very popular resource for people facing this sort of challenge.

How do I know?

Well, I reached out to them a few months ago when I was going through a tough patch in my own relationship. After being lost in my thoughts for so long, they gave me a unique insight into the dynamics of my relationship and how to get it back on track. I was blown away by how kind, empathetic, and genuinely helpful my coach was. In just a few minutes, you can connect with a certified relationship coach and get tailor-made advice for your situation.

4. He doesn’t trust you (and doesn’t say why)

Trust is vital in any relationship.

If he doesn’t trust you, he doesn’t want to have a relationship with you. Beyond this, trying to keep a relationship alive with someone who has trust issues is most often a futile effort, and you’ll just end up hurting yourself in the end.

Without trust, he has no reason to come back.

5. He returned your stuff

One of the things that makes a breakup so hard is realizing how much of your life you shared with him. Clothes, personal items, things like this inevitably get swapped when you’re in a relationship. They’re reminders of the life that you used to share before you separated. If he tries to give you your stuff back, it’s a clear sign that he doesn’t want any reminders of you in his life anymore, and he’s ready to move on for good.

6. He’s in a committed relationship

After a breakup, seeing other people is healthy. It helps to reestablish your own identity, and highlight that the person you were with isn’t the only type of person out there. However, if your ex has been seeing someone regularly and is in a committed relationship with them, it’s a clear sign that he’s never coming back to you.

7. What would a gifted advisor say?

Sometimes signs about your ex can be confusing – and contradictory.

In situations like this, I find it can be very worthwhile to speak to a gifted person and get guidance from them. They can answer all sorts of relationship questions and take away your doubts and worries. I recently spoke to someone from Psychic Source after going through the same deal. After being lost in my thoughts for so long, they gave me a unique insight into where my life was going, and whether we were going to get back together.

Newsflash: we did!

I’m very happy because my advisor was very kind and compassionate.

In a love reading, they can help empower you to make the right decisions when it comes to love.

7. He doesn’t want to hang out

Maybe you and your ex gave each other space for a while, a month or two, and you think it’s time to try and spend a little time together. This is a normal desire and if the breakup was for the most part mutual, it can be healthy, too. But if he never wants to hang out with you, it’s a good sign he’s not coming back. If he doesn’t want to spend any time with you, his interests likely lie elsewhere and he’s moving on from you.

He’s moving on from the relationship you had and never looking back.

9. He avoids your friends

It’s likely you shared a friend group before you started dating, or maybe you made friends together. In either case, if your ex is trying to avoid your friends or the friends you shared as a couple, he’s probably never coming back. It’s a clear sign, especially if he’s avoiding a friend group you two shared while you were together. He’s moving on with his life and making sure you aren’t part of it.

10. He doesn’t make an effort

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Maybe you’ve been trying to reach out to your ex to grab lunch and catch up. Maybe you’ve invited him to a few places, or have just been trying to text him to keep some form of communication open between the two of you. If you are the only one doing this, it’s likely he’s never coming back. Ask yourself, is he showing any signs of reciprocation? If he’s not making an effort, he’s showing no signs that he’s interested in re-establishing a relationship with you.

11. He’s sleeping around

Seeing other people after a breakup can be a healthy and good thing to do. But if your ex is sleeping around with a lot of people, it’s a big sign that he’s not coming back. If he’s sleeping around with other people, it’s a good indicator that he didn’t take the intimacy you shared very seriously, or it was never important to him in the first place.

In this case, he’s never coming back.

12. He won’t stop dwelling on the past

The problem isn’t that your ex won’t love you again — your past relationship has shown how strong his feelings can be. If you’ve tried to get back with your ex but failed, perhaps the real problem is a closed mind. He keeps dwelling on the past and where things went wrong.

That’s the emotional wall you need to climb over.

Here’s why you need to change this mindset of his.

Scientists have recently made an interesting discovery about humans. When relaxed, 80% of the time our mind is imagining the future. We spend a little bit of time contemplating the past and focusing on the present — but most of the time we’re actually thinking about the future. According to relationship expert James Bauer, the key to reversing a breakup is helping him picture a whole new relationship with you. Forget about convincing him to give things another try. When someone tries to convince you of something, it’s human nature to always come up with a counterargument.

Focus instead on changing the way he feels about you.

How?

In this short and genuine video, James Bauer gives you a step-by-step method for helping him picture a whole new relationship. He reveals the texts you can send and things you can say that will trigger something deep inside your ex. Because once you paint a new picture about what your life together could be like, his emotional walls won’t stand a chance.

Watch his excellent free video here.

13. He chooses to spend time with other people

Reestablishing autonomy is a huge part of healing from a breakup.

But if your ex is consistently choosing to spend time with other people instead of you, or if he consistently flakes on you, this is a big sign he’s never coming back. This behavior shows that you aren’t an important part of his life anymore. Having a romantic relationship with you again is the last thing on his list and the furthest thing from his mind.

14. He proposes friendship

Friendship between exes is a pretty common thing, especially if the breakup was mutual. But if friendship was your ex’s idea, he probably has zero interest in being romantic with you again. If you really want your old relationship with him back, it’s up to you to decide if friendship would be healthy or if it would just be too difficult. If he wants to be friends with you, it’s because he’s never coming back.

15. His body language is off

What’s your ex’s body language like when you’re with him? Does he show signs of interest? Or does he seem uncomfortable?

You’ll be able to tell almost immediately if his body language is off. Don’t ignore it in the hopes of having a relationship with him again. If he twiddles his thumbs, seems nervous, breaks eye contact, or shies away from any of your gestures, it’s a big warning sign. He’s probably not interested in a relationship, and he’s not coming back.

16. He’s no longer there for you

When a man genuinely cares for a woman, she becomes his top priority. He’ll keep you safe when you’re crossing a busy road. Check-in on you when you’re feeling sick. Or just put his arm around you when you feel vulnerable. Little things, sure. But they indicate a genuine desire to protect you from harm and earn your respect. If he no longer does these things for you, then this is a pretty obvious sign he’s not coming back.

17. He removes you from social media

The hard line of a breakup has been blurred by the connectivity of our world. Even after a breakup, you still have a window into your ex’s life while you’re still connected on social media. While this isn’t necessarily a bad thing, it can end up being a sign your ex doesn’t want you back. If he stops following you, it’s because he doesn’t want to be reminded of you anymore. If he blocks you from his social media, it’s an even stronger sign that he’s never coming back and it’s time to move on.

18. He never texts you back

Texting is one of those things that really doesn’t take much effort.

People are busy, forgetful, and it’s not unusual to forget to respond to someone. It’s okay if it takes a long time for someone to reply. However, if your ex never finds the time to respond to your messages, it’s a worrying sign. If your texts always go unanswered and you’re always texting first, it’s time to move on.

He’s never coming back.

19. He’s unapologetic about why you broke up

If your ex’s behavior was the cause of the breakup, did he apologize?

If he never said sorry for what he did, it’s a pretty clear sign he doesn’t want you back. Showing remorse is a sign that he still cares about you and cares about your feelings. If he doesn’t care about your feelings, he’s probably never coming back. If he’s not sorry for what he did to hurt you and your relationship, then it’s probably a good idea to move on anyway because he doesn’t deserve you.

Why do I have this feeling that he’s going to come back to me?

Relationships are full of intense feelings.

Strong love, strong devotion, loyalty, and a deep sense of attachment are all normal things to feel. When that is taken away at the end of a relationship, it’s hard to find where those feelings should go; it’s hard to know how to feel about the person you broke up with. After all, he may be pushing you away because he loves you, but he doesn’t know how to deal with those emotions.

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Digesting these feelings and coping with the changes is different for everybody, so make sure to give yourself the time and space you need to heal. A common feeling many people have after a breakup is the feeling that their ex is going to come back to them.

Why is that?

The common phrase “if you love something set it free. If it comes back it’s yours. If not, it was never meant to be,” has a lot of merit. According to Psychology Today, giving somebody you love the freedom to choose is vital in a healthy relationship. When it comes to a breakup, the same principle applies. In this case, giving your ex plenty of space away from the responsibility of a relationship gives them an opportunity. They have the ability to choose to come back to you. If they decide they want you again, it could end up with the two of you re-establishing a relationship. Even if you saw one or two of the signs above, all is not lost. Here are the 5 clear cut five signs that he actually wants you back.

1. He makes sure you’re okay

If your ex checks in on you fairly regularly to see how you’re doing, it’s a good sign he still cares about you. If he worries about you and wants to make sure you’re okay, he still has feelings about you.

2. He makes an effort to keep a connection

Most breakups lead to all communication ceasing and the connection being fully broken. If your ex makes an effort to try to keep a connection between you, it’s a sign he might want you back. Again, it shows that he cares about you still, and wants you in his life in some capacity. There might be potential for him to take you back.

3. He respects your space

If it’s space that you need and one of the reasons you two broke up, and he respects that space, it’s a good thing. While it may not be the biggest indicator that he wants you back, it is a strong indicator that he cares about your feelings and is able to respect your wishes. If you’re ready to try again, he’s demonstrated that he has the ability to respect you.

4. He talks about the times when you were dating

It’s pretty often in a breakup that the memories you shared are soured by bad blood. It’s hard to remember the good times through the grief. Maybe he doesn’t want to remember them at all so he could move on from you entirely. But if he talks about memories of your relationship fondly, or brings them up from time to time, it’s a strong indicator that he still thinks about you a lot. It’s a strong sign that he still has an interest in you and he might want you back.

5. He says he’s not ready to date again

There are a lot of personal factors that go into whether or not somebody resumes dating soon after a split. If your ex is hesitant to start dating again and expresses that to you, it’s probably because he still has feelings. His feelings for you might still be too strong to think about other people. He might not want to be with anybody else besides you. If you hear him say he’s not ready to date other girls, it’s a sign he might just want you back.

Summing it up

Life after a breakup can be a confusing and difficult time. Dealing with the loss and processing the life change takes time, and it takes healing.

Be patient with yourself.

Moving on and growing from the ashes of an ended relationship might just be the best thing to happen to you. And who knows what you’ll find next!

The alternative is to actually take action now to get him back.

If you want some help with this, then you need to watch relationship expert Brad Browning’s excellent free video right now.

This video isn’t for everyone.

In fact, it’s for a very specific person: a man or a woman who has experienced a breakup and legitimately believes the breakup was a mistake.

Brad Browning has one goal: to help you win back an ex.

As a certified relationship counselor, and with decades of experience helping to repair broken relationships, Brad will give you a foolproof plan to get him back. He reveals the texts you can send and things you can say to your ex to make him think, “yep, I made a big mistake!”. FREE eBook: 4 Steps to Starting Over With An Ex Do you want to get back with your ex? Then you need to check out our FREE eBook, The Ex Back Handbook. We have one goal in mind with this book: to help you win back an ex (for good!). If you want a foolproof plan to reverse your break up, you’re going to love this guide. Check it out here. Can a relationship coach help you too? If you want specific advice on your situation, it can be very helpful to speak to a relationship coach. I know this from personal experience… A few months ago, I reached out to Relationship Hero when I was going through a tough patch in my relationship. After being lost in my thoughts for so long, they gave me a unique insight into the dynamics of my relationship and how to get it back on track. If you haven’t heard of Relationship Hero before, it’s a site where highly trained relationship coaches help people through complicated and difficult love situations. In just a few minutes you can connect with a certified relationship coach and get tailor-made advice for your situation. I was blown away by how kind, empathetic, and genuinely helpful my coach was. Click here to get $50 off your first session (exclusive offer for Hack Spirit readers). Disclosure: This post is brought to you by the Hack Spirit review team. In our reviews, Hack Spirit highlights products and services that you might find interesting. If you buy them, we receive a small commission from that sale. However, we only ever recommend products that we have personally investigated and truly feel could be valuable to you. Read our affiliate disclosure here. We welcome your feedback at [email protected].

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