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How do you get your woman in the mood?

7 Ways to Get Your Wife in the Mood Understand it's not all about you. ... Give her intimacy without expecting sex in return. ... Do your best to make sure she is not exhausted at the end of the day. ... Be equal partners in the marriage. ... Support and encourage your wife as a complete human being. More items...

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Frank has been married to Tracy for 15 years and he is frustrated with their sex life. What used to happen every night (and some days, too) has dwindled to a couple of times a month at best. He understands that sometimes hormones mean she isn’t in the mood, but that can’t be why she’s never in the mood. What Frank doesn’t realize is Tracy is frustrated, too. Because while Frank misses sex, what his wife misses is intimacy. The good news is Frank and Tracy both can enjoy intimacy at its most satisfying. But Frank can only get there if he thinks about Tracy’s needs ahead of his own. The same is true for your marriage. Here are 7 ways to get your wife in the mood.

1. Understand it’s not all about you.

The key word in marriage is relationship. The key word in sex is “her,” not “me.” Think about sex in terms of what she enjoys, her emotional needs, her pleasure. It really is in giving that we receive.

Great sex is not transactional; it is relational.

2. Give her intimacy without expecting sex in return.

Great sex is not transactional; it is relational. Even when her hormones say, “I’m not interested,” being present anyway says, “I love you.” So put your partner’s needs ahead of your own (and read 5 Ways to Turn Your Wife on Without Touching Her). 3. Do your best to make sure she is not exhausted at the end of the day. Exhaustion (especially when it’s the result of an unequal workload) is not conducive to lovemaking. Lighten her workload.

4. Be equal partners in the marriage.

This builds on the previous point. Cook and clean together. Make financial decisions as a couple. Share child-related responsibilities. Serve her when she is tired. Be a PTA dad.

5. Support and encourage your wife as a complete human being.

Does your wife know she is admired, valued, respected, and encouraged? Communicate her value to her. 6. Make a list of the reasons you fell in love with her. Now fall in love all over again. Remember the pursuit? Remember the infatuation? Remember how ready you were for that first kiss? Taking sex for granted is a dead-end pursuit. But working hard to grow the relationship may lead to, you know, other things.

7. Take care of yourself and get into better shape.

Take an honest look at your health, your physique, your weight, the way you dress, the care you take. Make an effort.

Sound off: How has putting your wife’s needs first helped to bring you closer together?

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How do you go smooth when kissing?

Continue to make eye contact with her and then look down to her mouth. Keep your eyes focused on her lips for one second, then return your focus to her eyes. Do this several more times throughout the conversation, but don't overdo it. Look only enough to let her know that you're thinking about kissing her.

This article was co-authored by Imad Jbara . Imad Jbara is a Dating Coach for NYC Wingwoman LLC, a relationship coaching service based in New York City. 'NYC Wingwoman' offers matchmaking, wingwoman services, 1-on-1 Coaching, and intensive weekend bootcamps. Imad services 100+ clients, men and women, to improve their dating lives through authentic communication skills. He has a BA in Psychology from the University of Massachusetts Dartmouth. This article has been viewed 1,280,949 times.

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Will there’s no 100% guarantee that a girl will let you kiss her, there are things you can do to put her at ease and improve your chances. Spend time getting to know her and make sure the time is right. Before you make your move, dress up nicely, brush your teeth, and make sure you look and smell your best. Wait for a moment when you’re both relaxed and comfortable, hopefully in a romantic setting where you can have a little privacy. Look for signs that she might be in the mood to lock lips—for example, you might catch her leaning in close, gazing into your eyes, or glancing at your lips. Say something like, “I’d love to kiss you right now. Is that okay?” If she says yes, lean in slowly and tilt your head to one side so you don’t bump noses, close your eyes, and gently touch your lips to hers.

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