How do you break a bond with someone?

Inwardly say, “Thank you,” for what you've learned from the relationship, even if the lessons were hard. Then firmly assert, “It's time to completely break our bonds.” Next, visualize taking a pair of scissors and cutting each bond completely so you're free of any mutual energetic ties.

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Many of us instinctively want to take away another person’s pain, especially a loved one, but that can be unhealthy for those who soak up their negative energy. I’ve learned to be present for my patients but not to shoulder their discomfort. Since I frequently give workshops and speak in front of hundreds of people, it’s essential that I ground and protect myself. Then I won’t absorb the suffering of the participants—suffering is present in all humans—which is amplified in large groups. This allows me to do the teaching I love and not get worn out by excessive stimulation. One strategy I teach my patients and workshop participants, to help them maintain healthy relationships, is a cord-cutting visualization technique. My patient, Terry, realized she had been absorbing her mother’s anxiety since childhood. She has a big heart and was unconsciously taking on her loved one’s emotions. However, once Terry became aware of this dynamic, I taught her to set boundaries by visualizing cutting an energetic cord between herself and her mother’s anxiety. This technique (from my book, The Empath’s Survival Guide) allowed Terry to create a healthy boundary and still remain a caring daughter.

Practice a Partial Cord-Cutting Visualization

If you feel you are too connected with someone’s physical or emotional state, visualize a cord of light extending from your belly to theirs. Then lovingly set your intention to cut the cord with their pain or discomfort—you’re not severing the connection with the total person. Next, visualize taking a pair of scissors and cutting the cord between you and the aspect of that person you want distance from. Sometimes you might attract a specific type of negative person because of the mutual emotional issues you both need to heal. This can lead to entering into an unhealthy “wound mate relationship,” in which you keep repeating the wounding process with each other. There’s an odd psychological comfort to this, because it’s what you both know, and what you’re used to. You become attached to a toxic person and can’t let go. This keeps you stuck in a painful cycle. For instance, your low self-esteem attracts people who criticize you, and the criticizer attracts people whom they can belittle, because their parents belittled them. Be careful not to perpetuate such wound-mate relationships. Instead, let these people—friends, coworkers, spouses, or anyone—spur you to develop self-awareness and heal the initial wound. Then you can grow out of these relationships and find more fulfilling ones. Some energy vampires, such as a narcissist, are so toxic you’ll need to stop all contact with them. To end this type of relationship (or a connection to anyone with whom you want a complete break), go cold turkey: Keep moving and never look back. In addition, use this strategy to help you completely cut an energetic cord with them.

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Practice a Complete Cord-Cutting Visualization

In a calm state, picture cords of light connecting both of you. Inwardly say, “Thank you,” for what you’ve learned from the relationship, even if the lessons were hard. Then firmly assert, “It’s time to completely break our bonds.” Next, visualize taking a pair of scissors and cutting each bond completely so you’re free of any mutual energetic ties. This will help you release the relationship, and also remove lingering energy that you feel from the person. Have honorable closure. This technique lets you release a relationship, particularly if you keep thinking about the person or sense that they’re thinking about you. Go out in nature and find a large stick. Look at the stick and declare, “This relationship is over.” Then break the stick in half, leave the pieces on the ground, walk away, and never look back. This finalizes the ceremony of closure. Learning to set healthy boundaries, or if necessary complete breaks, with those who drain you will protect your sensitivities and enhance your well-being.

Adapted from The Empath’s Survival Guide: Life Strategies for Sensitive People.

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