How do guys react to the silent treatment?

Resentments build up, issues get unresolved. The person you're snubbing feels hurt and confused, and either does everything in their power to get you to start talking to them again or gets angry and, in turn, snubs you back.

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There are some questions about men that only a guy can answer. We asked the dudes at guyspeak.com (read more about them here), for their take on this dating conundrum:

Q: Does the silent treatment work on guys?

No. It's passive-aggressive and stupid. It's like a child holding his breath until he gets what he wants. You're saying to the other person, "I don't want to address our problems, so I'm just going to shut you out until I get my way." If anything, the silent treatment makes things worse. Resentments build up, issues get unresolved. The person you're snubbing feels hurt and confused, and either does everything in their power to get you to start talking to them again or gets angry and, in turn, snubs you back. So then you've got two people who aren't communicating and no one wins. In a relationship or friendship, the silent treatment is a form of emotional abuse. It's shutting someone out, and refusing to address an issue or a grievance. Often, people who use the silent treatment don't even tell the person they're snubbing what they've done wrong. They just sit and pout until the other person asks them what's wrong. The person being shut out feels hurt, abandoned and like their words are falling on deaf ears. If the other person is trying to communicate and fix the problem and you're snubbing them, they're doing all the work. Nothing good can come from shunning or ostracizing someone you love just to get what you want. We preach communication here more than anything else. In an argument, the only way to win is to plead your case. If you're forcing them to give in just to get you to talk to them, are you really winning? You haven't proved your point—you're just being a giant baby. That seems like more of a Pyrrhic victory. Using the silent treatment will only lead to more anger and resentment while further driving a wedge between you and your partner.

--Written by Nick Nadel for guyspeak.comHow do you communicate with your guy when you're upset? Have you ever give your guy the cold shoulder?

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Here's the thing about trying to know if a guy likes you: Sometimes looking for small signs is never going to give you an accurate full picture of what's going on. Some guys will do all of the above with their friends, while other guys will like someone but not do any of the above. "Some folks may be less able to express their attractions as overtly as this," Battle says. "For instance, my shy clients sometimes struggle with externalizing their feelings for a crush even in subtle ways. That means that even though they like someone, it might be harder for the other person to tell. When in doubt, talk about it!" If you're not sure if a guy likes you but is hiding it, just ask him and let him tell you directly how he feels. It sounds scary, but it definitely doesn't have to be! A simple "Hey, I think you're really cool, and I'm kind of into you—are you into me?" is casual, direct, a little sexy, and also nonthreatening. If it's a no, at least you know! And if it's a yes, now the fun stuff begins.