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Do narcissists act like toddlers?

Narcissists behaviors can be mystifying and maddening if you expect them to consistently act like adults. Though narcissists can behave like adults much of the time, when they feel embarrassed, ignored or inferior they may revert to a childlike state, acting like children during the terrible twos.

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Narcissists behaviors can be mystifying and maddening if you expect them to consistently act like adults. Though narcissists can behave like adults much of the time, when they feel embarrassed, ignored or inferior they may revert to a childlike state, acting like children during the terrible twos. In a way, this regression makes sense. Narcissistic personality disorder or a narcissistic style often develops due to early trauma or family influences that can leave aspects of a person stuck at an emotionally young age. For example, picture a young child caught with his hand in the cookie jar when told to wait until after dinner. Children respond to such situations with one or more of a dozen instinctual responses. By the same token, adult narcissists use sophisticated versions of these same childlike responses. As you read through the following examples, you may want to think of a narcissist in your life and note any similarities with how the narcissist you know responds when feeling stressed, slighted or thwarted. What a child caught with his or her hand in the cookie jar might do

1) Deny they did it

I didnt eat one. I was just looking for later.

2) Blame someone else

But sis said it was all right.

3) Pretend they dont know what you are talking about

What cookies?

4) Throw a tantrum

5) Say they had no choice

I was so hungry I couldnt help it.

6) Recite good things they have done

But yesterday I put all my toys away. Aren’t you proud of me?

7) Cry or act like a victim

Youre so mean to me. It’s not fair.

8) Hide or run away

9) Try to charm you

But I love you so much, Mommy.

10) Change the subject

Can I go outside and play?”

11) Ignore you or stonewall

12) Get mad at you for catching them

Stop spying on me!

Such childlike responses bear an uncanny resemblance to the key tactics narcissists use to avoid responsibility and manipulate others:

Denying

Blaming

Pretending

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Acting out

Making excuses

Seeking credit

Playing the victim

Running away

Charming

Distracting

Stonewalling

Attacking

Recognizing the childlike nature of narcissists responses can empower you when dealing with narcissists. The next time you find yourself confused or on the defensive by a narcissists behavior, envision him or her as a two-year old in an adult body. Doing so can give you perspective and allow you to respond rather than react. If an adult narcissist acts like a child, perhaps you need to treat them as you would a child. As an adult or parent, you can see through childrens attempts to avoid blame and shame. You dont take it personally but you also set healthy limits, as that is in their best interests as well as yours. The difference with adult narcissists is they have more power than children. Their tactics can affect you and pose danger. You have to choose your responses wisely. Here are some strategies that can help:

Give them choices

If you take your child to a crowded restaurant when youre in a hurry, you give the child choices. Instead of asking what they want to eat, you say Do you want pizza or a PBJ? Similarly, suggesting options or choices to an acting-out narcissist may let them think they are in control and can move the situation along.

Have realistic expectations

You dont expect a small child to act in a mature adult fashion. Similarly, you are generally not likely to go wrong by underestimating a narcissist’s level of maturity. You dont have to tolerate abusive behavior. But expecting emotional maturity from a two-year-old of any age will just leave you frustrated.

Dont take it personally

You dont take a two-year-olds pouting personally. They are in the throes of emotions they havent yet learned to contain or soothe.Similarly, narcissists generally cannot contain their feelings when they are embarrassed or disappointed. Recognize that they are awash in emotions that to them are so huge they cannot cope in a mature fashion.

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