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Do men struggle after breakups?

Heartbreak gets the best of men, a new study has revealed. Despite a lingering stereotype that men are less emotionally invested in relationships than women, researchers have discovered that it's men, in fact, who suffer the greater emotional impact during a breakup.

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Heartbreak gets the best of men, a new study has revealed.

Despite a lingering stereotype that men are less emotionally invested in relationships than women, researchers have discovered that it’s men, in fact, who suffer the greater emotional impact during a breakup. University psychologists in the UK and Switzerland say the “big data” study is the first to examine the outcomes of romantic hardships. Initially, researchers hoped to establish a “word map” and hard data for the most common relationship issues for couples that occur outside the clinical setting. “Most of what we know about relationship problems comes from studies of people in couples therapy, which includes a rather specific subset of people — people who have the time, money, and motive to work on their relationship problems,” said lead author Charlotte Entwistle in a statement, tied to the publication of their findings in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships. “We wanted to understand not only what relationship problems are most commonly experienced by the general public, but who experiences which problems more,” said Entwistle. Communication, time investment, physical appearance and substance abuse came up frequently as factors in a breakup. SAGE Journals More than 184,000 volunteers shared their relationship woes in an anonymous online forum, with gender factored into the analysis. Researchers looked deeply at the language they used to ascertain the psychological characteristics of their stories, from which they pulled out common themes to build their map of relationship problems. Some results weren’t so surprising. Poor communication ranked as the No. 1 pitfall in relationships, with one in five reporting this as a top issue. Trust was also a major factor for one in eight. Time investment, physical appearance and substance abuse also came up frequently.

But an unexpected gender dichotomy had emerged, they found.

“As we were conducting the study, we realized that this was an important opportunity to put a lot of common ideas about gender differences in relationships to the test,” said lead researcher Dr. Ryan Boyd. “For example, are men truly less emotionally invested in relationships than women, or is it the case that men are simply stigmatized out of sharing their feelings?” The boxplot graph shows a ranking of common breakup themes cited by male and female participants. SAGE Journals

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Researchers noted that submissions from their jilted volunteers focused more on their personal emotional pain after the fact — rather than the factors that precipitated the breakup in the first place. The most common words used included “regret,” “cry” and “heartbroken.” And, contrary to what they’d predicted, it was the fellas who appeared to struggle more with these feelings. Said Entwistle, “Notably, the fact that the heartache theme was more commonly discussed by men emphasizes how men are at least as emotionally affected by relationship problems as women.” Furthermore, men were also found to be more inclined to seek help online in order to cope with a breakup. Women, on the other hand, were more likely to find help in person, such as a therapist. “Traditionally, women are more likely to identify relationship problems, consider therapy, and seek therapy than are men,” said Boyd. “When you remove the traditional social stigmas against men for seeking help and sharing their emotions, however, they seem just as invested in working through rough patches in their relationships as women.” Study authors hope their work will work to remove a common stigma among men, who are less likely to share their feelings openly or seek counseling. “This gives us serious hope that we can use help-seeking behavior to better understand all types of social and psychological issues,” Boyd added.

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