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Can you be born naturally smart?

Current neuroscience research suggests that most newborn infants are born with the potential to achieve in many cognitive areas. There will be some genetic predispositions, but the child's brain is extraordinarily malleable and “teachable”.

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Did you ever know someone that others referred to as a “brain”? It is a term most commonly used in a school environment referring to a top student. Often the “brain” did not seem to have to work hard at school; he or she was viewed as naturally intelligent, knowledgeable in many subjects, liked by teachers and admired by fellow students. Did you ever wonder how that person got that way? Most likely you thought, as did most experts in psychology, the field that assesses intelligence, that he or she was just “born” smart. Until very recently, intelligence was viewed as a fixed innate capacity, a genetic gift from mom and dad that more or less propelled a child on their way to success in school then ultimately success in life. But it turns out, that intelligence is not as fixed as was previously thought nor is it preset by a person’s genetic inheritance. There are many variables that affect intelligence as it is measured by tests, measured in school, and measured in life.

Neuroscience: nature vs nurture

Current neuroscience research suggests that most newborn infants are born with the potential to achieve in many cognitive areas. There will be some genetic predispositions, but the child’s brain is extraordinarily malleable and “teachable”. One could say that the job of the infant brain is to figure out, from what is going on around him or her, what skills and sensory abilities it will be important to master. Once the basics are established the child’s brain will set out on a path to become an expert in those areas. By stimulating their child in certain ways, parents set the stage for the infant brain to begin a developmental trajectory that will influence what the child becomes “smart” at – science, math, music, art, athletics, reading, writing, cooking, care-taking, this list is almost endless – and guide preferences the child will demonstrate throughout life.

5 Interesting facts about early childhood brain development:

Four-year-olds are better at solving novel problems than many adults. Young children have “open” attention, which takes in a lot of detail from the surrounding environment, while adults have more focused attention, which means that they notice details that are perceived to be relevant and ignore those that are considered unimportant. Every language has nursery rhymes for children who are two to three years old. The rhymes help children build phonemic awareness and learn about characteristics of language, such as rhyming and syllable structure. Young children learn language capacity by interacting with adults. It’s the interacting part that’s important; television cannot replace the adult as language teacher. Lack of experience with other children can contribute to cognitive delays. Interested in learning more about neuroscience and how the brain changes? You can read a chapter free chapter from Norman Doidge's bestselling book "How the Brain Changes Itself" by clicking here, or watch this webinar with Dr. Norman Doidge.

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Mindset: The New Psychology of Success by Carol Dweck

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The survey concluded that parents tend to favour their youngest child over the elder. More than half of the parents quizzed said they preferred their youngest child, while only 26 per cent said that their favourite child was their eldest.

Most parents would claim that they do not have a favourite child, but a new study – conducted by more than 1,000 parents across websites Mumsnet and Gransnet– begs to differ. The survey concluded that parents tend to favour their youngest child over the elder. More than half of the parents quizzed said they preferred their youngest child, while only 26 per cent said that their favourite child was their eldest. 61 per cent of those who favoured the youngest said it was because the elder children are “tricky or demanding”. However, this survey does not coincide with another from the University of California in 2016, which stated that most parents favour their first born. These results came from analysing how the parents treated the two siblings differently, rather than from asking them who was their favourite. “Favouritism is one of the last taboos and can provoke a lot of guilt, so it’s important to say that feeling a great affinity for a particularly child – often, whichever one is willing to put their shoes on – is fairly common, and doesn’t have to be disastrous,” Justine Roberts, founder of Gransnet (Mumsnet’s sister site) said. “The distilled Mumsnet wisdown on this issue is that lots of parents like their children differently: the crucial thing is to love them all wholly.”

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