Infatuation Rules
Infatuation Rules
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If you've addressed toxic behavior with the person exhibiting it and they have taken it to heart, it's possible for toxic people to change. “Toxic people can absolutely change,” Kennedy says, “however they must see their part in the problem before they are likely to find the motivation to do so.”
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Read More »Knowing yourself means examining your own reactions to specific situations and events that happen and discerning whether your responses are, in fact, justified, or merely outsized emotional responses to some of the other stresses we are all facing in other aspects of our lives. For example, if you've ever had a bad day at work and come home (or in this new world, simply walked into the kitchen) only to fight with your spouse, loved one, partner or kid about, say, doing the dishes, you certainly know what an outsized response looks like. In many cases, you aren't actually upset about the dishes sitting in the sink, you're angry at the way your boss treated you, or how a client spoke to you, and you're taking your anxiety and frustration out on those you love. Generally, when you have an outsized reaction to something in your life, you feel regretful after losing your cool and apologize for your "crazy" behavior. Getting clear about how we're really feeling in the moment is really crucial to understanding how to manage our responses to stressors in our environment. Yet, as Kennedy notes, some people know how to push our buttons and, in some cases, do it on purpose because they, too, are feeling the pressure of something else. In many cases, these kinds of people have something more significant going on. It's very important to show yourself (and others) some compassion in these moments, too. It's impossible to know everything going on in someone else's head or experience, and compassion can help us cut both ourselves and others a little slack in these stressful times. If you think you are in a relationship with someone who fits the definition of "toxic," you should take steps to separate and protect yourself from that person. “ Setting boundaries is going to be critical if you have someone toxic in your life," Kennedy says, "It's important for you first to have clarity about what you need and want and then communicate that with the person. They very well may not be able to hear it or understand it." Be honest with the person who is abusive towards you about the impact that their behavior has and see how they respond. If they continue to be abusive towards you and don't change their actions, even after you bring those actions to their attention, it's time to minimize your interaction with them. "You return calls less often, or you limit how much time you spend with them. You don't overextend to compensate for their shortcomings. Rather, you hold steady and stay in your lane. It's going to feel foreign to not 'save them,' but ultimately, you will feel better," Kennedy says. It can be very difficult to back away from someone you have had a relationship with, yet if you have tried to communicate how their behavior impacts you and those discussions have borne no fruit, it's time to be proactive and protect yourself. In some cases, toxic relationships can become both physically and mentally abusive. “The biggest challenge of trying eliminate a toxic person from your life,” Kennedy says, “is that you are going to feel guilty. 'They need you' or 'You are the only one they have' might come up. Often toxic people have few close people in their life, so they hold on tightly. They may use manipulation, guilt, or crisis to keep you on the hook. You have to stay steady in your resolve in your boundary. You have to let them feel disappointed when you don’t rescue them from their bad behavior or excessive need. Reflect back on your personal strength and stand firm in your self-respect. They will change or the relationship will end and they will find someone else who will indulge their negativity.”
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Read More »If you’ve addressed toxic behavior with the person exhibiting it and they have taken it to heart, it’s possible for toxic people to change. “Toxic people can absolutely change,” Kennedy says, “however they must see their part in the problem before they are likely to find the motivation to do so.” Kennedy says that it's likely that the person being abusive or controlling towards you struggles with their own issues. "Likely they are unhappy but don't know why," she says. There are specific steps they must take, however, to change their behavior. Reflect back on your personal strength and stand firm in your self-respect. They will change or the relationship will end and they will find someone else who will indulge their negativity. "First, they must recognize their own misery and acknowledge the patterns that likely exist: people in their life have come and gone; they are negative, critical, judgmental, demanding, entitled; intimate relationships are fraught with arguments and drama. To change, they have to take responsibility for how they show up to relationships and how much they expect from others." At their very base, like all people, toxic people want to be loved and supported. Change takes hard work, patience, and support from a variety of people. If you or a loved one is in a toxic relationship, it can be valuable to seek help from outside sources like mental health professionals. They can help you identify the issues and help you decide what steps to take. It's also important to note that we are not all innocent when it comes to toxic behaviors. We all have them, and it can be valuable to take some time to do some self-reflection and investigation to see where you might be able to improve your relationships both to yourself and to those around you. With a little patience, thought, compassion, and applied effort, you can change your own behaviors to improve your relationship with yourself and others around you. After all, toxic relationships don't happen in a bubble. It takes two to tango. Abigail Bassett is an Emmy-winning journalist, writer and producer who covers wellness, tech, business, cars, travel, art and food. Abigail spent more than 10 years as a senior producer at CNN. She’s currently a freelance writer and yoga teacher in Los Angeles. You can find her on Twitter at @abigailbassett.
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