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Can a girl like you and not show it?

She may have good reasons for keeping a lid on her feelings for you. She's already in a relationship and isn't sure whom she wants to be with. She knows what she feels for you but doesn't want you to know just yet. She's ashamed of her feelings for you but can't help showing them sometimes.

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You probably have someone specific in mind if you’re asking, “How do I know if a girl likes me?” She seems to like having you around, and you want to know whether she likes you that way. It would sure help if you knew the signs she secretly likes you.

Maybe she’s not ready to tell you how she feels.

But if you have feelings for her, and she’s showing the signs described in this post, you have reason to hope. No matter how inconspicuous she thinks she’s being, there are ways to tell if a girl is hiding she has a crush on you.

What you learn in this post isn’t about shaming her for that.

She may have good reasons for keeping a lid on her feelings for you. She’s already in a relationship and isn’t sure whom she wants to be with. She knows what she feels for you but doesn’t want you to know just yet. She’s ashamed of her feelings for you but can’t help showing them sometimes. She doesn’t know how you feel about her and isn’t ready to show her cards yet. Knowing about her feelings can make it a lot easier for you to share yours. Knowing the truth can also help you decide whether to go for it or back off. Look through these signs she’s developing feelings for you, and be honest about whether you’re seeing them. If you’re looking for signs she’s not into you, consider the flipside of each of these.

1. Her friends know how she feels about you.

If her friends know about you because she keeps bringing up your name in conversations with them, they know you’re on her mind. As far as they can tell, you never leave it. Every topic leads to you. They might not like it (or you), but they see how hard she’s crushing on you. And because they care about her, they may take an interest in vetting you for her sake.

2. She knows things about you you haven’t told her.

If she starts dropping bits of knowledge about you that you haven’t shared with her, that’s another sign she’s interested in you. Otherwise, why would she bother doing research?

She’s learned about your secret addiction to animé, along with your strong opinions regarding certain ships in your favorite series. And you know you’ve never mentioned it.

She knows things. And you’re wondering if you have any secrets left.

3. She takes an interest in things you like.

She wants to have more in common with you. So, she’ll want you to see her taking an interest in something you care about, whether that’s a fandom of yours, a passion for cooking, or a human rights cause you support. If she cares enough to show an interest in things you love, that’s a strong sign she likes you and isn’t 100% opposed to your figuring that out.

4. She shares personal information with you.

She talks to you about her plans, her dreams, or her struggles, because she wants you to have a more important place in her life. She might also tell you things about herself to put your interest in her to the test. If you reciprocate by letting her see more of your true self, she’ll know you care enough about her to open up — and that you trust her.

5. She lets you know when she’s free.

If she lets you know when she’s available during the day — for chats, hangouts, etc. — that’s a good sign she likes you and wants to spend more time with you. She’s also giving you information about her daily life so you know what’s important to her. It’s another way to let you in. If you do the same for her, she’ll see that you care enough to make yourself available to her, too.

6. She invites you to hang out one-on-one.

If she invites you to hang out with her and no one else, she’s either got something important to tell you, or she just wants you all to herself. Or both. So, unless you’re getting the strong vibe that she’s about to friendzone you, this is a strong sign she likes you and wants to spend more time in your company.

This is true especially if she’s showing other signs on this list.

7. She randomly sends pictures from her phone.

How great is it when someone you’re interested in sends you a picture out of the blue?

Whatever the reason, she took the picture and thought of you. She included you in that moment, even though you couldn’t be there to enjoy it with her. Because whether she’s ready to admit it or not, she wants you to be a bigger part of her day-to-day life.

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8. She draws you into long conversations.

You might start with small talk (“How’d the day go?” or “How’s work?”), but before long, you’re in a long conversation with her about something that matters to you both. You transition with ease from one topic to another, losing track of time as the hours slip by.

What’s more, you both look forward to these conversations, and it’s obvious.

9. She laughs at your jokes.

Even when you know it’s not funny, she laughs. Something about the way you said it caught her off guard, and you get to hear an actual belly laugh. One day, she’ll groan at one of your jokes, but not today. Chalk it up to happy brain chemicals. When you’re in love, jokes are funnier — even bad ones. It’s science.

10. She’s curious about (and even jealous of) other girls around you.

If she acts jealous toward other girls around you, that’s another sign that she likes you and wants you all to herself. She might also ask you about other girls she’s seen you with to see if you have a favorite. If you do, and she regards the “other woman” with an unfriendly eye, or if she tries to prove she’s better for you, you can be sure of her interest.

11. She teases the idea of being a couple.

Here’s how she might do that:

Tease you for acting like you’re her boyfriend

Joke about the two of you actually being a couple (“Crazy, right?”)

Openly explore the idea while gauging your reaction

That last one might sound like “What if” questions or “Picture this” scenarios. She wants to get you thinking, “How great would it be if we were a couple.”

12. She asks around to find out whether you have a girlfriend.

A girl who’s crushing on you will want to know if you’re already in a relationship, so she’ll ask around (discreetly or not) to get that information. So, if you hear she’s been asking about your relationship status or asking about your social media presence so she can follow you, she’s definitely interested. Or she might just ask you directly, as if she were asking a random, innocuous question.

13. She drops hints about her availability.

How might she let you know?

By mentioning her “ex.”

By talking about how fun it was to just hang with her girlfriends on Valentine’s Day. By trying to connect with you on social media, so you’ll see her relationship status.

14. She’s eager to hear from you every day.

Maybe she sends you texts throughout the day to see how you’re doing, to let you know how her day is going, or to see what your plans are. And when you do respond, she’s always so happy to connect with you. Whether you talk over the phone, text each other, or meet in person, she’s never too busy to spend time with you.

15. She gives you her full attention when you’re together.

Think of the things you do when we’re talking to someone but you’re not really engaged:

Looking at your phone

Checking the clock

Typing or jotting things down

Decluttering

If she’s into you, chances are she won’t be doing any of this while she’s talking to you. When you’re around, everything else fades into the background. You’re all she sees and hears. And she hopes you feel the same about her.

16. She lingers around you for a chance to talk.

If she doesn’t get to hang out with you one-on-one, she might linger around you, waiting for a chance to talk. She might start frequenting certain places, so she can “run into” you. And when she does, she’ll be in no hurry to say goodbye. In her mind, there’s no guarantee she’ll see you later if she can’t make a lasting impression in the time she’s got.

17. She’s always smiling at you.

Even when she’s stressed or feeling down, she always has a smile for you. And if she holds your face in her mind, she’ll probably take a deep breath or sigh every time she sees your smile. It lights her up inside. Just seeing you floods her with happy brain chemicals and renews her energy. You’re what she looks forward to most in the world.

18. She likes touching you.

She looks for opportunities to touch you:

Hugging you to say hello and goodbye

Touching your arms, hands, or shoulders

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Grabbing hold of you during scary moments

Of course, if you tell her you don’t want to be touched, she’ll honor that and keep her hands to herself. But ask her for a hug, and she’s all in.

19. She includes you in her plans.

When she’s making plans for future events or for the weekend, she includes you, because she wants you to be involved. She wants you to be a fixture in her life. So, if she’s planning to attend a wedding, she’ll ask you to be her “plus one.” And if she’s planning some fun for the weekend, she’ll invite you to join her.

She’ll also hope you do the same for her.

20. She blushes when you pay her a compliment.

When you pay her a compliment, she blushes, acting a bit bashful (maybe) but pleased. If she’s not used to getting compliments, she might show her pleasure in less obvious ways. But even if she can’t accept the compliment, she’ll probably still show you she appreciates it. On the other hand, if she doesn’t want a compliment from you, she’ll either ignore it or dismiss it outright.

21. She pays you compliments and notices things others miss.

If she likes you, she’s more likely to pay you compliments. When she sees you, she’ll probably compliment something about your appearance (“You look good!” or “I love that shirt on you”). She’ll pay attention to things others don’t notice and mention them when she talks about you. She’ll want you to know she’s paying attention — and she likes what she sees.

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22. She posts pics of you on social media.

If she’s posting pics of you on her social media timeline, she’s sending a clear message that you matter to her. If she’s posting pics of the two of you together, she already sees you as a couple, unless something in her post description makes it clear your relationship is strictly platonic (e.g., #LoveHimLikeABrother or #RandomDudeWhoLikesMe).

23. She puts extra effort into looking good.

A girl who likes you will want to look her best when you’re around. So, she’ll put more time and attention into her hair, her clothes, her make-up, and how she presents herself. Whatever she does differently, the goal is to be more attractive to you, as well as to feel more confident when she’s around you. You’re the reason she’s stepping up her game. 24. She says yes when you ask her to hang out with you. If you ask a girl who likes you to hang out, she’ll probably say yes — especially if she has you all to herself. But if the best she can get right now is to hang out with you and some other friends of ours, she’ll take it. If she wants to, but can’t, she’ll ask for a “raincheck.” Translation: “I would if I could. Here are some good times for me….”

25. She shows you sides of herself others don’t get to see.

A girl who likes you will let you see more of who she is. At some point, when she knows she likes you and wants to see whether you’re on the same page, she’ll be real with you about how she feels. But until then, she’ll show you things other people don’t get to see. She’ll draw you more deeply into her world, so you can see what your life might be like if you were a couple.

Do you think she likes you?

Now that you know the top 25 signs a girl likes you but is trying not to make it obvious, which have you seen already? And what have you been doing to show you like her?

If you’re “playing it cool” while you pick up these signs in the girl you like, it’s time to take some risks and be real with her about where you want the relationship to go.

If you’re not as into her as she’s into you, it’s only right to let her know. And if you’re both smitten with each other, why not be honest about that, so you can enjoy more of each other’s company?

Act as if you’re both worth the risk.

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