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Can a 22 year old be groomed?

Anyone can be a victim. No one is immune to grooming, though some are more susceptible than others — including minors, "because of their naiveté,” Marlowe Garrison says. “[Grooming] can occur at any age, and it has a great deal to do with gullibility, insecurity, religion, and culture.

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R. Kelly is once again at the center of sexual abuse allegations: In a BuzzFeed News report published this week, several parents of young women accused the musician of holding their daughters against their will, while former members of Kelly’s entourage shared disturbing reports of his alleged verbal, emotional, and sexual abuse of these young women and others. One of the big issues is that the women reportedly believe they’re in consenting relationships with the singer. As some have pointed out, that may be because Kelly "groomed" them to accept the allegedly abusive relationships. “Grooming is the slow, methodical, and intentional process of manipulating a person to a point where they can be victimized,” Eric Marlowe Garrison, a sex counselor and author, tells Allure. “After [the perpetrators] find their targets, they then gain trust and move in from there.”

Here’s what you need to know about grooming.

1. Anyone can be a victim.

No one is immune to grooming, though some are more susceptible than others — including minors, "because of their naiveté,” Marlowe Garrison says. “[Grooming] can occur at any age, and it has a great deal to do with gullibility, insecurity, religion, and culture. [...] It starts by targeting a vulnerable person, then building trust.”

2. It often starts with friendship.

Groomers don’t jump right into abuse, which is often sexual; they begin with building a friendship. “It’ll be in a way where they get to know the [victim] well enough where they find out what they like,” Dawn Michael, PhD, a sexuality counselor, tells Allure. “Let’s say somebody is on Snapchat or...Instagram — [the offender] can pick up some of the things that [the victim] is posting. That’s why, especially for young teens or even young adults, they have to be aware of the information they’re putting out there, because someone can get this information and use it to befriend them; and that’s kind of how it starts.” Michael notes that the groomer will look for various ways to get in the victim’s favor, which could be bringing up interests they express on their social media channels, name-dropping mutual — or supposedly mutual — acquaintances, or emphasizing their own influence or power.

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What age difference is considered grooming?

From my understanding grooming can happen when there is some form of a relationship between a young and more impressionable person and a much older person (let's say like 10+ years) where the younger person is molded to the older person's wants in a way that may be inappropriate and even creepy.

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Hey y’all I was having a conversation with a friend about the concept of grooming but I wasn’t great at explaining it and surprisingly it was hard to find a good source on the internet that talked about it. From my understanding grooming can happen when there is some form of a relationship between a young and more impressionable person and a much older person (let’s say like 10+ years) where the younger person is molded to the older person’s wants in a way that may be inappropriate and even creepy. I don’t know can y’all shed some light on grooming to better inform me and also so I can continue the conversation with my friend? Also any personal experiences are welcome as well!

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